I have a 14 year old step daughter, is it normal for her dad to back her up and not me?

Cyndy - posted on 09/26/2012 ( 1 mom has responded )




My stepdaughter and i have a good relationship but if i tell my husband we shiould ground her for lying he doesnt back me up almost as if im the enemy. Shes never had to do chores until we met and weve been married 9 months, all he says is raise her like you did yours and they will be great, but we caught her in a lie i tried to tell him she lied, it was like i was the enemy he said you must have heard wrong.then he finds out shes lied and all hell breaks loose.


Vicki - posted on 09/27/2012




I could see why this would leave you feeling frustrated. I was going through this very thing with my husband and my daughter, The worst part is that she knew it! What worked for me was that I got sick of it and was no longer going to tolerate it. I sat down with my husband and I reminded him that we were a team and how we werent acting like one. I also told him how I didnt feel like he had my back. I then provided him with examples of how we werent working together and what the result was from it. I told him that it was unacceptable and that we needed to discuss what our houshold rules are together and talk about what the consenquences are together if their broken.

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