I have a 15 year old daughter and i would like r bond to be closer than i was with my mother.

Annette - posted on 05/16/2010 ( 7 moms have responded )




Well me and her dad is divorce for 5 years now and she has always been a daddy's girl she lives with him, we let the children pick who they wanted to live with, and she lives with him and my son lives with me. She says to her stepmom she don't think me and her will every have a bond, she didn't even call me on mothers day and that hurts.


Tochukwu - posted on 05/18/2010




Hi Annette, take heart & take it easy. Dont be too hard on yourself. Keep trying & always say nice things to her even when the nice things are not coming from her ok? I am sure with time she'd come around!


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User - posted on 02/06/2014




my daughter is 15 year old she loves me but the same time she doesn't know when she puts me down it hurts me inside is always avoiding helping me with the chores.but she tells me I don't pressure me I will do for sure without you pressuring me.our love is been so stressful I'm I can't I can't wait for her to get a jobfull disappointment what game were you care for each other.he's a big help helping me with the baby 5your old in half.she's starting to get sick of me asking her to help me with everything help me to get her to stop pointing out my flaws I'm not perfect no one's perfect it hurts me deeply every time she says that we get your big thick big fight

Angie - posted on 05/18/2010




I think it's going to be next to impossible for you to create a bond with her now. This type of bond is usually made in early childhood. Spend time with her when she's open to it and be grateful for the time you have. Things could change when she leaves home in a few years...

Louise - posted on 05/18/2010




This is a sad situation. Your daughter is going into the trasitional stage from girl to woman and she needs a strong female role model in her life. Make time for your daughter to do women things like have your nails done, or hair so you can chat on neutral turf. Teenagers need to talk alot about what is going on in their lives the key is opening them up to talk to you. Jst try and get involved with her life, show interest in any sports or clubs that she does, make a point of ringing her regularly no matter what so she knows that say wednesday night is mum night. It is a bit late after five years to start doing this but if you don't try you will never know if you could of saved your relationship.

Kristy - posted on 05/16/2010




I have a simular situation. I have four children and we let our four have a say in where they wanted to live and my now 16 year old daughter chose her dad as did my son, and my two younger girls chose to live with me. I do not have a step mother in the picture though.

Make it a point to be involved in her life. Ask questions about what's going on at school, friends, boys, etc. Try to establish an open line of communication with her. If you can, spend some one on one quality time with her. I take mine for an ortho appointment once a month, and we spend the rest of the day together.. go to a movie.. out to lunch... girl time. show her that you want to have a relationship with her. She may be resistant at first, but if you are consistant she will start feeling more comfortable.

Jennifer - posted on 05/16/2010




If the bond isn't there by 15 it will be hard to establish, but I would think it can be done. I would spend as much time as possible doing one on one activities with her that you can both enjoy.Maybe talk to your ex and his wife and see if they can help encourage to spend more time with you.Good Luck and hang in there.

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