I have a 16 year old who refuses to do his homework

West - posted on 03/14/2012 ( 4 moms have responded )

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I have a 16 year old who refuses to do his homework and is flunking. He refuses to take his ADHD meds says he doesn't need them. I have taken aways his TV gaming system, etc. Nothing seems to work. All he does is sleep and eat. How do I make him realize what a big mistake he is making, any suggestions.

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Barb - posted on 10/09/2013

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i have adhd and am 16, but i do my homework and am getting A's. but i do take my meds. it could be an underlining problem, or he could just not like his teachers... maybe they give too much homework... or he isn't motivated. could be trying to impress his friends by failing. teenagers these days would do anything to "fit in" even if it hurts them. try making a deal with him, anything below a C gets punished anything higher than a C is rewarded. works for me, keeps my grades up . good luck

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 03/16/2012

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I quit arguing witn my son. If he chooses to not complete his homework, thus falling behind, he will not graduate with his peers, and will not be able to go into the military. He knows that the military will look at his grades, and that's what made the difference in my house.



What irks me is that he's a straight A kid, but won't put out the effort, because "I don't understand why, once i've proven I know it, I must continue to do the same thing over and over". I can't blame him, actually. WHen he was little, I could get him to do it by telling him he had to remind his teachers that he knew it, and the best way was just to do it.



I also found that it helped when I showed them how much college would cost, how much I would help with, (provided they have a decent GPA) and what they'd have to come up with on their own...And all of a sudden, they both started studying better...LOL...I guess scholarships are important to them.

West - posted on 03/15/2012

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Thanks that is a great point. Just hate to have him not succeed, seems like such a waste. He had an eye accident almost two years ago were he lost the vision of one eye and has never beeen quite the same. It happened the month before he started high school, and a week before he was to start taking drivers ed. Hopefully he will get back on the right track before it is to late. I will try your suggestion.

User - posted on 03/15/2012

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There could be a couple of things going on here.

1. He could be depressed. By suddenly getting off his ADHD meds made him unbalance.

2. If he seems to be fine otherwise, maybe he really just dont care right now about school. Unfortunately some kids just dont get it at this age. So, my suggestion to that is manual labor. What do I mean? If you (the child) wont study and try to pass school, then you (the child) need to pull your own wait around the house because you (the parent) should not have to support a lazy kid. Manual labor, And remind him that he will be doing this for the rest of his life because it's the type of job he will most likely get without a high school degree.

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