i have a 17 year old teenager who yhinks she looks fine she is over weight and i am at a loss to help her what can i fo without ruining her self esteem


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Claudette - posted on 09/20/2012




Heres the thing. if your 17yr old thinks that she looks fine then that is good. You didn't say how overweight she is. I mean, is she obese, has the doctor said anything to you or her about her weighr? I have a daughter who I kind of see creeping up there and making some bad habits, but I don't want to hurt her feeling or make her feel self cautious either so I understand, but on the other hand, all I can do is make more healtheir choices of food available, so that she is not snacking on junk food, and offer activities that she may enjoy that are good exercise, but fun lik swimming. With your daughter being 17, she may not be so into the whole swimming thing, but you can at least give it a try and see if she'll go for it. Offering her to go to the gym, is like saying you think she needs to go to te gym, although you do, but all she may here is that you think that she is fat and needs to go to the gym.

I would tell her that you are working on your weight, and that you need a walking partner to encourge you, so that she thinks that she is doing this for you and not for her self. Also, the game Just Dance is good exercise, or ask her to join Zumba.

Michelle - posted on 09/16/2012




sounds like she is slipping into a depression I would insist she go to see a doctor make sure she does not have a medical problem most 17 year olds want to be social.

Annelissa - posted on 09/16/2012




Is anyone out there that can help. I joined the gym buy she wont go. I say what do u want to do and all she does is watch TV and sleep. She has lost interest in friends and since she gained weight from a keep problem she will do nothing. She has a friend who asked her to run and she says no. I do not know what to do.

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