I kicked my 17yr old daughter out

Mindy - posted on 08/26/2013 ( 1 mom has responded )

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I'm 40yrs old and have Ultra Ultra rapid cycling bipolar. Pulled off meds in order to start new ones. This reeked havoc on my body and mind. I asked my very demanding 17yr old daughter to bare w/me through this. After support and promises, she began to unload on me for not driving her everywhere she needs to go. I reminded her of the "just hang tight with me for 2wks" she agreed to. After guilt placed at me and how she refuses to walk to school (1/4mi away), I snapped. I told her to leave and I would let her know when everything becomes "perfect for her" to come back. I was SO angry (withdrawal from meds) and had no control of my mouth. I kicked her out and I can't handle the guilt and depression that has followed my actions. Was I wrong? I continued with apparently I'm never going to be her idea of a perfect mom and maybe I should sign my rights over to someone who can be. I don't want to, she's my baby, but I said it and can't take it back. I have NO idea how to handle this with all my mood swings! My heart is now broken and I did it to myself. Any opinions will help! I am lost....

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Ella - posted on 08/26/2013

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Woman up! Apologize to her, not one of those half assed ones. ( you know the ones where the person apologizing says 'I'm sorry but if you didn't...') My dad used to do that and they meant jack-shit to me. Tell her from the bottom of your heart that your sorry and regret what you did. Once you apologize to her and she knows your sorry then talk to her about what to do next whether you want her to move back in, help her find an apartment, or maybe organize for her to stay with friends until you get back onto your meds and into a good routine. Just remember she's your daughter and will always love you. I know this from experience, my mom made mistakes and did really unfair things to me, she moved me to the other side of the world when I was 15 and for a while I hated her but I forgave her and understood why she did it. (financial reasons) Your daughter is 17 so she will be smart enough to understand it was a mistake

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