I'm a 15 year old girl

Nekolovercatears - posted on 06/15/2016 ( 2 moms have responded )

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Okay so I'm 15 years old and I'll be turning 16 in 5 months and I wanted to ask about typical privileges that most parents would give their child at my age. My mother hovers a lot and refuses to let me hang out with a group of people that are slightly older than me. I get really good grades, I'm at the top of all of my classes and because all of my siblings are 10 or 10+ years older than me, I've been told by many people that I'm very mature for my age. A lot of my friends are 16 or have just turned 17 because I just don't connect with the general pool of immature people my age. All of my friends are very responsible, are great drivers and are not into anything bad like drugs, alcohol or sex by a longggg shot. I have no freedom and even in our safe, well respected neighborhood, I can only walk around the neighborhood(WITH my dog and my phone) for a maximum of 40 minutes(on a good day). I have never done anything to not earn my mothers trust, actually the "worst" thing I've done "behind her back" was that at a State band competition (because I'm competitive musically), instead of walking across the street to Subway for our lunch break, I went with some of my friends to a burrito place slightly down the street. I'm really starting to become depressed seeing all of my friends have such a great time this summer without me being allowed to go do things with them and I really just want to see if I'm overstepping my boundaries by wanting to be able to do things with my friends this summer. (I'm a sophomore in highschool by the way and I'm planning to graduate a year to a semester early)

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His - posted on 06/17/2016

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Hi Rose, in my mind the word typical really doesn't apply with parenting. No two sets of parents are just alike in. There are many variables. Your mom most likely trusts you, she just doesn’t know your friends and what choices they'll make in certain situations. Invite your friends over more. This will give you a chance to spend time together during the summer and let your mom get to know them. Communication is a wonderful thing. Have you talked to your mom about your desires and concerns? Here's a suggestion. Write the points out that you want to talk over. Ask mom to set some time aside to talk with you. Have the notes ready. Make sure your not rushed. Remind her that it will not be that long before you will need to make your own decisions and it would be good if you could start getting a little practice. Listen to what she has to say with your heart. Don’t be discouraged if she doesn’t see things your way. Give her time to think. Be kind to her. Let her know you appreciate her for being such a great mom. In making your own decisions you will have more understanding for your mom on what she has to go through. I wish you the best.

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