I think my 14 year old daughter has stolen my prescription medication!

Cyndi - posted on 04/07/2010 ( 30 moms have responded )

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Had a pretty good day today... for the first time in weeks. Laughed for the first time, in so long that I can't even remember...

I take Klonopin every night to help with my never-ending anxiety and stress. When I went to get my meds tonight, I realized that I only had 3 pills left... and I just filled it on 3.21! So that is 18 days ago, after tonight, should have 12 pills left... missing 9!???

I'm almost positive that it was my daughter who took them, because my son is anti-drugs, smoking, drinking... the whole she-bang.

I'm just blown away... shocked. Disappointed. Don't even know what to say. I don't think she took them to consume them... I think she probably took them to either sell or pass out to friends, and I don't even begin to know how to deal with this. Anyone ever dealt with this kind of thing before?

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No matter how great our teenagers are and how well behaved they are .............NEVER keep your pills where they are known to be unless you have them in a locked cupboard. It is so easy for teens to want to try them especially because they are no illegal. They seem to think they will be okay. Some kids don't realize what the dangers are out there.
Gravol is one medication that should always be unaccessible to teens. If they take enough, they can get very high and can also overdose and die.
Unfortunately teens think they are invinceable, they feel they know more than adults. This way of thinking can be very detrimental to their well being.

Mary - posted on 04/14/2010

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This is the start of a bad situation. My 18 almost 19 year old son started this when he was 17.. I keep all my medication in a lock box.. and some are kept at my husbands work in his tool box and if I need one I will have to call ahead of time and ask for one. Its the safest way..that I could handle it. One of the main things that kids can get their hands on are Prescription Drugs.. and unfortuantely someone is either experimenting or selling them but a very serious situation that should not be taken lightly either. I would even possibly take both of the children in for a drug test as it will come up if it's in their system.. Also watch for other things coming up missing within the household that is a quick sale to kids, and is most likely someone abusing drugs within the house. After testing the children I would then immediately look for a substance abuse program and I would then test them ever 3 weeks. If you ever want to talk I would be happy to talk with you.. I wish I was not experience in this situation but I am. Its hard.. I will say a prayer for you.. :)

Betsy - posted on 04/15/2010

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I can identify with the same situation.I will tell you how I went about it & u can take my advice or just leave it alone & let it be.Just lock it up & keep the keys with u at all times.Wether in ur purse or on u if u decide not to take my advice.



I feel the best way to go about it is to get your daughter alone where the 2 of you can talk privately.You see,if your child did take it,she is most likely to NOT tell you around other people,for fear that she may be judged or looked at different.Then just start talking to her,not asking her straight out.Try to use reverse psychology if needed.



Just ask her"Honey,something has been bothering me & I really need to talk to someone.Can I talk to you?"of course,most likely,she will say yes.Then you start.Again,remember reverse psychology:I am missing some of my medication & it is really important for me to take them.I will not be able to get anymore until a certain date.You see prescription medication is very dangerous if they were to fall into the wrong hands.But that's my second concern.My 1st cocern is that I am now going to be 9 days without medication before I can get my next refill.So those 9 days without my medication can be very harmful,even dangerous for me.I'm not sure if I misplaced them or not,because I can't remember.Have you,by any chance seen any medication around the house or anything? or do you know if maybe anyone took them?" My 2nd concern is that I think maybe your brother took them.I really don't think so,but it's a possibility.

I'm not going to be mad if he or anyone else in this house took it.I just really need them even more now.Because since I don't have them then that just lets me know that someone else does & I would feel really responsible if anything where to happen to the person that has them.So that makes me stress even more to the point where I am really going to need my medication.Do you understand what I mean?Maybe it wasn't even your brother.Maybe it was one of his friends,maybe even one of your friends.All I want you to do for me is ask your brother if he has had any company over or ask yourself if you have had any company over & ask around please.If it was one of yours or his friends that took it,then just get it back & leave it in my room & no questions asked.I promise!"



If she did take it,she will feel scared & at the same time guilty & sorry that she took them & she would return them without telling you.Cause she wouldn't want you to get sick,right?Then of course if they did return it,the only thing you are to say to them is,"Thanks,I'm happy I can trust you kids & don't worry,as I promised,No questions asked."Then just give them a hug & kiss.



But also remember,if they don't return it,it's not because they don't feel bad about taking them.It might just be that they no longer have them.But most likely they wont do it again.Cause they now know how important the medication is for u by the way u were expressing your concerns.

Joyce - posted on 04/14/2010

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find a support group in your area to help. I found my son using and it almost sent me into deep depression and I found this great support group for me and my son and two younger children because when one is using or even stealing drugs it affect the whole family . When one child acts or does things like drugs or drinking your whole focus turns to them and we forget to take care of us. I know that it sounds like that we should be focused on that only but you need the support to learn to set boundaries that are healthy for the both of you and to have a support system that will help you both if things get worse. There are a great programs out there. But in the mean time I would find a way to lock away your meds. I think it is easy for others to give advice but to live it it is HELL but it can get easier! Let me know how things go !!

Karen - posted on 02/11/2014

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I look at it this way ....why do I have to live like my house is prison. did all the above locks safe boxes . my son still found a way. My solution CALL THE POLICE. he spent a night in jail. He still denies he stole my drugs. He will b homeless in the coldest weather ever......IM OKAY WITH IT. IM TIRED OF SLEEPLESS NITES TIRED OR WORRYING EVERY SECOND OF THE DAY BTW GOING THRU CANCER THIS IS GREAT FOR RECOVERY MY SON COMING HOME DRUNK AND STEALING MY MEDS. I finally had it. Also he has been offered help and refused hes 20 what more could I do and how much do you put up with. Rock bottom will only help him that's it GOOD LUCK TO EVERYONE !!! I know how terrible this is

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Sarah - posted on 04/20/2010

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My teen was taking Adderal from my boyfriend. She also took over the counter meds & her own prescription meds. She got caught at school w/ her baggy of goods and got suspended. Her and another friend were abusing Adderal like many teens do today. I bought a safe & kept everything locked up. She would never admit to anything she did unless we caught her w/ it. Luckily, those days are over. If you search her room, you will most likely find your answer. I did regular room searches when she wasnt home. It was the only way I knew what she was involved in. I hate when you cant trust your own child but they make stupid choices at that age.

Cyndi - posted on 04/19/2010

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Thank you for all of your comments and suggestions... I did call my doctor and she said that the first thing that I needed to do was call the pharmacy and make sure they didn't short me... which confused me because how on earth would they know for sure, unless it was video taped or something? Well, video taped no... but apparently with controlled substances, it is required that the pills be not only counted by the distribution machine or whatever it is, but that the pharmacist also "hand" count the number of pills and then once confirmed, circle the number on the bottle and initial it. Well, sure enough, when I looked at the bottle, the number was NOT circled nor initialed. So, now... there is doubt... was it the pharmacy's mistake or did my daughter or even my son take them? I will probably never know, but regardless my meds AND their meds are now locked up, along with the prescription cough syrups, Clairatin D and what little alcohol we have. Pain in the butt? Yes, but worth the peace of mind.

Connie - posted on 04/18/2010

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You need to just confront both kids so that way she doesn't fell like you are pointing the finger at her. But you need to do it fast. Because if she gave it to a friend you need to call there parent and tell them. Then get a lock box and keep them in here.
As a punshment, take all her favorite things away from her for a week. Every day remind her why you took them, so she will not do it again. Kids need to be reminded so they don't forget, and do the same thing all over again.

Kamela - posted on 04/18/2010

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I would hide your pills and then put teething tablets in a different bottle. Count them in the morning, throughout the day and at night. See who is going into your room and when. If that seems like too much, I would sit them down and talk to them.

As much as we trust our kids, they will, at some point push that. It may be a friend or someone they look up to asking for them. It may also be that one of your kids is having the same problems and is afraid to admit it to you.

Shawn - posted on 04/18/2010

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Ask her straight up if she took them and if she denies it, let her know that regardless of her answer, you have to have her tested. You should also have your son tested to be double sure. If it was her, I would use scare tactics: boot camp, visit prison, talk to current addicts. This could be the beginning of the end if you don't address it in a very SERIOUS way. Don't sweep it under the rug or you may regret it for the rest of your life. Unfortunately, there are people who want their kids to be their friend and think they are "cool" in order to have a close relationship - in my opinion that is the biggest mistake you can make in most cases of child rearing. Please be vigilant when it comes to drugs. I would rather my kid resent me and hate me initially and thank me in 10 years than not be around in 5 years b/c they developed a drug habit at age 14. I hope this helps in some way.

Kecia - posted on 04/18/2010

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I live in Southern California and Kaiser Permanente is our insurance carrier ... they have kaiser hospitals and pharmacies in California and Arizona and I think Hawaii as well. So it's bound to happen ... :o)

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hmm never heard of Kaiser but i guess since I live in a small town and most of the people that work at my pharmacy are either related or have known one another for years I have only been shorted a few pills(less than 5).

Kecia - posted on 04/18/2010

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I absolutely did!!!! I am fairly certain that the person who filled the script was fired because they are no longer there. It's because of this situation that I ALWAYS check before leaving the counter. It irritates people waiting behind me... but I don't care. It was so strange the day it happened, because I normally just took the bag and left... I take vicodin for chronic pain so I fill the script once every other month... for some reason, I looked in the bad, and saw the bottle... I just thought it looked like it wasn't as filled as high as it normally was... so I took the bottle out for a closer look... sure enough... it prompted me to stand there and count them... it was more than just a bit short... the pharmacist came over and asked what was wrong... I explained... he looked more than disgusted... refilled it ... and apologized over and over. The young man who filled it ... hasn't been there since. It was a Kaiser pharmacy.

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26 pills? omg did you report it to the pharmacy you got them from? because they are supposed to be told of these things if they have dishonest workers.I agree someone could have taken them for their own consumption and I would be Peed off If I paid for a script and was shorted that many. but yeah if she keeps them locked up and counts them (before you leave the pharmacy parking lot) and if they disappear then yeah she will definitely know.

Kecia - posted on 04/18/2010

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I do agree with locking the pills up from now on... then there is no worrying .... but I once had 26 vicodin pills taken from a 120 pill RX!!! So it can happen.... I don't think that was an error or oversight.. I think my pills were stolen for someone's own consumption. People are human, and even people in pharmacies can succumb to drug addiction and in turn steal other peoples pills.... It does happen.
But as I said before, the pills should be locked up from now on... and you should sit down and speak with your daughter about it regardless of the pills being locked away... if you think she may have taken them to sell.... that needs to be addressed!!
Good luck to you

Kecia

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yeah but a pharmacy usually wont miss that many pills as they usually have counters that count them for them and if its a brand name script and not generic they usually come in their own sealed bottle.12 pills would be a Lot for a drugstore to screw up on.I do agree though that she should count them anyway just in case but still get a padlock and put on a cabinet or drawer just to be on the safe side

Kecia - posted on 04/18/2010

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Before assuming that it is her.... consider that it may not have been filled properly. There are times that the pharmacy gets it wrong... either by a true mistake or someone behind the counter stealing them for their own use. It has happened to me in the past and because of this I count my pills every time before leaving the counter at the pharmacy.

Carleen - posted on 04/17/2010

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buy a small locked drawer that you can put your meds intoand hide the key or keep it on you at all times.meds are tricky and when it comes to anxiety pills even more so.i take xanax my self and always make sure there are unreachable to everyone but me,hope this helps.

Tanya - posted on 04/16/2010

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Not to mention I have sat down with her many times and talked. Didnt faze her a bit. She had to learn the hard way.

Tanya - posted on 04/16/2010

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Well from my own experience if you dont stop it now it will get worse. I will tell you what my own 14 year old daughter just went through. It started by letting her stay night out with a friend to only find out she was at a party getting wasted. The parents of another kid bought the drinks. I find out my daughter was put in a car with an older women drunk in the back seat. took her phone and would let her out until her friends demanded her to.. Boy was that a scary thought of all the things running through my mind of what could have happened. I pressed charges on them and they went to jail. The juvinile authorities were contacted. Then a friend of hers who stole pills from her mom gave my child some at school. Got caught , suspended. Again the authorities were contacted and she got put on probation for 6 months, and entered into a drug program of there choice. Got druged tests every week. Went 2 times a weak. Her probation officer put her on house arrest basiclly and deleted all the friends in her phone who had a history with them. Mind you I live in a small town. So She could only have her phone 1 hour a day and go no whare. After a month I thought she had learned. Wrong!! I let her go to a friends who gave her another pill and she didnt pass her drug test. Got admtted to live in treatment not by my choice. When I fought that desicion they called family service and made me make her go. She then was in treatment 3 months. Made me go to counceling with her. Got released , and off probation. I then got smarter and realized I was not going to let that happen again. Although she needed the treatment to fully understand It was real hard not to have her home. I cut her off all her friends except the ones whos parents I know that who were strict with there kids. She now is only able to stay night with 2 friends out of the many she had. I speak with these parents to make sure she is not doing anything shes not supossed to. I only let her stay night 1 weakend night thats it. And I keep close eye on her. Although she is still not perfect, she has learned and I still threaten drug tests and more treatment if she fails..Now my point is, if I would have been more strict and stopped it right away this wouldnt have happend. Not to mention the girl who gave her the pills got the same deal. I hope that helps you.

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you need to sit down with your kids and talk to them about this and let them know that if they are taking them or someone else is and using them that it can be deadly because the medicine is NOT for someone else and that you can go to jail because if they are being sold you can be held responsible and face possible jail time since you dont have the right amount of medication in your bottle.If something happens to ONE of these kids(yours or not) and they find out where it came from you can be held accountable for this so explain this to your kids that you can end up in jail for this(you can too)I would also tell me kids that if you find out one of them are either taking them or selling them you will call the law on them and have them prosecuted because its a crime and that YOU need the meds. Then I would get a padlock and put it on a cabinet or something because they can take a lockbox and bust it open if they are that desperate so maybe scaring them with the law will make them stop I would also look up side effects of the medicine or the effects of anxiety drugs on people with no anxiety. you can usually tell if someone is abusing drugs so look up the signs and see if either of your kids are showing symptoms. also get a few at home drug kits and randomly test them and tell them you will do this because you cant trust them right now because of this. maybe then you will get to the bottom of it.

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I too think a lock box is a good idea, but I also think that you should set your kids down and explain to them what the pills are and why you are needing to take them. Most times kids don't even know what they are taking or handing out when this happens. Explain to them the effects this could have on someone else when they are taken. You could also tell them that while you do not want to accuse them, this cannot happen again and you feel the need to take action to not only protect them, but yourself as well. Hopefully your kids will appreciate the honesty and you never know, your children may start to look at each other and prevent something like this from happening again.

Louise - posted on 04/15/2010

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Do you really want to confront your daughter with absolutely no proof! My suggestion to you is that you lock away your medicine so this can not happen again. You could confront her and she might tell you the truth, would you beleive her if she said she did not do it? Lock your stuff away and forget about it. Out of sight out of mind.

Kathleen - posted on 04/14/2010

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you must get a lock box.......i hate 2 tell u this but if she did take them more than likely she is experimenting. we love our kids and want 2 c the best in them..she may dny it but u need 2 talk 2 both kids..this is what kids r doing these days.it sucks! just if u do talk 2 them keep an open mind...at this point a lock box is needed

Angie - posted on 04/13/2010

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I just came home from a PTC meeting where we had a presentation on prescription drug abuse amoung children. I was shocked at the statistics. Ask you children, point blank if they took your meds. Keep in mind, there is a huge market for prescription meds. Your child may not be using the drugs but selling them. Good luck!

Bonnie - posted on 04/13/2010

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Are either of them going to parties or hanging out with friends a lot? It could be their contribution to the "pharm party". Discussing drug abuse and stealing should be an ongoing conversation. Don't assume because your son is all "anit-whatever", that he's not capable of taking them for some other purpose. I suggest locking them up to prevent the child's access and continuing with open conversations about the topic with the whole family.

Michelle - posted on 04/13/2010

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hi,yes i have been in the same position,and still to this day i hide my meds as my son can,t be trusted.its a scarry thing when that happens,the first thing you should do is hide those meds...and then sit down with your daughter and talk to her about the dangerous impact that it could do,and also getting in alot of trouble with the law,also i would check out her friends.but you do need to hide your meds,its terriable that she can,t be trusted but you are only protecting her.good luck.michelle

Tracy - posted on 04/13/2010

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Figure out in your mind when you think the pills could have been stolen. Then approach each child separately and ask them to account for where they were and what they were doing during that time period, without divulging why you are asking. (You need to be sneaky on this so they cannot compare stories.) Then call a family meeting and tell everyone that the pills are missing. Tell them that you feel it's possible that someone in the house has taken them. Ask each person directly, "Do you know where my missing pills are?" "Did you take them?" Then ask each person to account for where they were and what they were doing at the time you feel the pills must have been taken. Most likely, the person who took the pills will be nervous and the story will change from when you asked them their whereabouts earlier.



Of course, you may never recover the pills, and you may never find out for sure who took them. But the best thing you can do is to keep your prescription medications out of reach of pilfering fingers. If you keep the pills in your purse and are gone during the day, that keeps them out of the wrong hands. If you have a lockable cabinet, put them in there and keep the key in your pocket or on your person some way. Then, you need to have a talk with both kids (don't assume the anti-drug kid is innocent) about the dangers of drugs and what the law says about distributing drugs without a prescription. Also, if there are any "Scared Straight" programs in your area, it would be good for them to see that. It shows what it's like in prison.

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