I think my teen smokes pot

Michele - posted on 06/26/2010 ( 12 moms have responded )

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my 19 year old smokes pot. I think regularly. I want him to stop, have tried emotional appeals but he just doesn't get it. what should I do?

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Clare - posted on 06/29/2010

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I agree with all the posts - my 20 year old has been using for a few years now and we make it impossible for him to get anywhere to get pot. He doesn't have his own car and he is not allowed to use ours and none of his so-called friends have a car.He is also forbidden to use in the house. He has seemed to be better lately but you have to be tough as hard as that is to do.

Ingrid - posted on 06/27/2010

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Does he still live at home with you? If he does, this may sound harsh, you have to tell him that it will not be tolerated in your house and if he chooses to continue to do it he will have to leave. He is a legal adult but as long as he is living with you, he should follow the rules.

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Julie - posted on 01/25/2013

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I made my 18 year old son leave after he continually smoked pot, stole money and items from every member of my family, smashed things up, scratched my partner's car, lost 3 jobs and it goes on and on the list is endless. I've had help from everyone trying to sort him out but it all is helpless and my heart ha broken seeing him turn from the loveliest kindest most popular boy working as a commis chef for a famous chef in London to a complete drop out whose mind has been fried with this disgusting drug. He is at the moment staying with his dad and I don't know how long he will be there and I don't know what will happen in his life - I regularly think the police will knock on my door and tell me he is dead. The heartache is too much to bear.

Leslie - posted on 07/14/2010

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Tell him to find a new place to live. I told my kids the first time they come home high they are out. That is one thing I will not tolerate in my house.

Jennifer - posted on 06/30/2010

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hi , i know how you feel it's hard when your child does things that can hurt themselves, and it's even harder to make your heart stop feeling for them. if your son is using get him help if he still sees a pediatrician talk to them , voice your concerns . i'm sure they will test him and then have the dr talk to him of all the risks he is putting himself under. maybe that will open his eyes or atleast get him the help that he needs . my son was younger then that when he started , thankfully he stopped , but the fear of him starting again is still there. i hope this helps you and i am sorry for your pain. being aparent is the hardest job in the world and when we love our children it makes it all the harder to do what needs to be done , but some times it is for the best. not that it makes the pain it causes any less. *hugs*

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Just started dealing with the same type behaviors in my 18 year old son. You need to establish why he is smoking (thrilll, peer approval, habit or addiction). Knowing where the behavior is, can help you determine the intervention. Mine was thrill and peers. We now use the home test kit if we suspect (Axe spray to cover the smell). We do not want him addicted, and want to keep him safe. No driving under the influence of any substance.
If he is smoking, watch for the selling. They buy a large bag and split it to cover the cost. Look for small electronic black scale, baggies. If your son is addicted or its a habit, you will need professional help. Good luck! Be strong!
We now have a "if you do a, then b" discipline system.
We have an agreement, he knows the rules. Looses car, phone, grounding, etc.

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 06/28/2010

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Kmart, and I'm sure other discount stores pharmacy sells a test for around $15. my kids both know that they are subject to testing upon suspicious behavior, mainly because they have a couple of friends that could die from smoking. Hand 'em the cup, and tell 'em to fill it. And stick by your guns!

Allisha - posted on 06/27/2010

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YES I ALSO AGREE, SINCE HE IS 19 ,,,,TOUGH LOVE,,,IF HE WAS A MINOR THAT WOULD B A WHOLE DIFFERENT BALL GAME......GOOD LUCK !!!

Adia - posted on 06/27/2010

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michele i just found out that my 19 is smoking pot and i had 2 put him out. he is grown and if u dont want to live my rules let the door knob hit u were the good lord split him. u can go to the store and get a drug test for bout 20

Angie - posted on 06/27/2010

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I totally agree with Ingrid. You might also keep in mind that if he is smoking in your home, you will be held legally responsible if he is ever caught.

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