Im lost help please my 17 yld daughter is destroying her self she suffers from depression takes meds and feels lonely no matter what, lately she been online a lot I have told her time and time be cautious well to night she asked to take out the trash after dark I found that kind of odd so I said no then she ask to take a walk I was like no something is up (we dnt go out after dark) I asked if someone was meeting her so she says no but still try's to go out I told her go on the balcony this guy shows up that I don't know so when he found out she can't come he leaves , later I find out she met him online and she said he was 20 but when I saw his photo you could tell he wAS my age this really pissed me off, I let her father know what was going on, I just have no idea what else to do , I feel she will do something bad or get hurt, I blocked all the computer and text messages, she does not want to listen when I tell her this is dangerous she has put us all at risk giving this stranger our address, how do you help a child understand that had a learning disability?

Tokisha - posted on 03/27/2014 ( 4 moms have responded )

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My daughter has a learning disability and is putting her self in danger how do I help her

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Tokisha - posted on 04/03/2014

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Thank you I am looking into finding a specialist in our area, she knows she is on lock down as punishment for her wrong doings, we are new to the area so she does not go out alone that's not a big worry so far, however I have told my son to be aware of things since this has happened, I hank God truly for sending me the signal something was going on it was so compelling that I could not ignore it, my granny always said it takes a village.

Edel Jane - posted on 03/30/2014

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Hi again, I truly feel for you and Asperger children are usually followers not leaders and there in lies is a red flag. I doubt your Doctor could diagnose her one way or another, she need to be refereed to a specialist with your take on her, no one knows there child like a parent and what you are describing I have lived with and there is help, even on line there is help for you if you feel this to be true, go to an Aspergers sight and see if she fits the criteria, you will find helpful hints also so you can get started anyway.
In the meantime its very hard to accept you can't protect her from everything 24/7...impossible so don't try. Why not do what you can, where possible. Get rid of the internet or set a time and safe place for its use (for her) if you cant im telling you to get rid of it altogether as she is the most important part of this. Openly talk to her in a manner you know she understands about stranger danger in all its guises, get her to repeat back to you what your saying and what it means, this is the only way to gauge if she truly understands. Set new boundaries and check in times/ calls. My son has a phone with a tracker on it so he could tell me where I was at any time so I bought myself the same one so I know where he is at any time also...it gives me great comfort! Look where theres a will theres a way and your half way there seeking advice for your concerns and your on top of it because you are aware of what she can do so that gives you the upper hand. Think of where she wants to go, why, with who...distract her until you can think on your feet. if you can alarm your house do so, if she questions you decide to tell her the truth and maybe have a commotion or pretend its for another reason so you won't get the back lash on top of all your dealing with. I so hope any of this helps you, my heart goes out to you, just hand on in there this will pass x Edel

Tokisha - posted on 03/30/2014

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I have blocked the sites and told her I would get rid of the Internet, it's like hitting a wall, I had wondered for a while if my daughter has Aspergers but the Dr said no, yet she struggled in school for years and socially has issues and problems with understanding big words , I often think that is what keeps her from getting that what her father and I do is to protect her from others and herself. What I am afraid of is she will sneak and get caught up in something and I'm not there to help.

Edel Jane - posted on 03/30/2014

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I have a 14 son with Aspergers and like your daughter got taken in by a MAN posing as a 16 boy....very difficult to deal with and trying to get him to see the dangers, after a screaming match I took a hammer to the xbox and destroyed it. He nearly passed out with shock, but I had threatened to do all sorts, block users, take the xbox to the kitchen la la la...but it was when I actually took the drastic action that he realised "oh my God Mammy is frightened for me in this" now im not saying smash anything up but if you can find a way to show her how this is frightening you for her safety I think this may work. My son has to "SEE IT" to believe it, so we role play, I use multimedia to educate him, programmes or films to get messages across that the rest of us take for granted, could you find a movie/ documentary around a young girl having likewise experiences? I hope this helps in some way, and I pray you all get through this successfully. Regards, Edel

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