is it normal for a 14 yr son to masturbate daily

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Every time I walk by his room or the bathroom I catch him masturbating. I am understanding that teenage boys have urges but is this normal and should I talk to him about it?

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Stephanie - posted on 10/26/2012

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When it comes to "teenage boy behavior, and what they do at that age", I listen to my husbands teenage boy stories and input. Every mother is going to have there own opinion about their son and masturbation..We have never been, and will never be a teenage boy going through puberty! Every teenage boy is an individual, each one having different needs/desires sexually. My son is 15 and at 13 he started staying in the shower for longer periods of time. My husband and I would kind of make jokes (Just between us) about how he takes longer than his 16 yr old sister who has hair almost to the back of her knees and as thick as a horses mane! I guess at that age, my husband was in the shower a lot! I'm with Melanie too because my son would be mortified if he ever accidentally walked in on me changing! I don't know about the therapist thing though. I've heard stories of boys and the way they are about their mothers even from a young age. Now I don't think it's right or okay, but I can see there being a curiosity about the opposite sex. If he starts mutilating Barbie's and starts peeping Tom like behaviors on ANY female, then you might want to have him evaluated!

Heather - posted on 10/25/2012

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Him masturbating is normal, Him walking in on you is wrong. LOCK the door! Learn to knock and tell him to lock the door. I would also suggest you have "the sex talk" with him, and teach him about safe sex and how to put condoms on (using a banana or something like that to show him)

Kimberly - posted on 10/29/2012

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Yes it is completely normal! As the Mom of 3 boys I have walked in on more than My share of masturbating. Just make sure he also understands it is normal

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 10/25/2012

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No, trying to catch you showering or changing is plain wrong, Ashley, and he needs to learn boundaries. However, you also have to respect HIS boundaries.



I suggest you both start locking the door.

Jenny - posted on 11/16/2012

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Uh yeah....can someone say creepster? I grew up with 3 brothers and never had them spy on me or catch them multiple times beating off.

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User - posted on 11/13/2012

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I am glad a read this my boy is 10 and i dont know if he even started yet but i ask his step dad to have ,,,the talk,,, or should i ...

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Thanks everyone I had a talk with him. Seems he is just very horny. He said he just wanted to see a naked women and got a couple good peeks so we settled on a no spy and knock before enter rule. The condom idea was a good one so I showed him what to do when the time comes. I told him it should be a while before he uses them unless experimenting with himself in his room.

Melanie - posted on 10/25/2012

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Did I read that correctly? He tries to see you showering or changing clothes? I have a 16 year old son, and first, I have *never* caught him masturbating. I assume that he is a "normal" boy and does, but he certainly doesn't do it where, his father, me or his little sister would see it. I also don't bust into his bedroom or bathroom when he's in there. I can't think of a single time I've felt the need to go into those places when he's in them. I don't know the last time I went into his room at all come to think of it. Second, my son has never tried to see me changing clothes or showering. He would be mortified if he walked in on me, and I imagine the last thing on his mind would be to go masturbate if he did. I would seriously consider talking to a therapist to see what their take on it was because that seems really strange to me.

Sarah - posted on 10/25/2012

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Its normal. It will stop or lessen once its not so new... I think it lasted about a year for my son...

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OK thanks I feel more comfortable about it now. Now I know why he is always trying to catch me showering or changing.

Deanna - posted on 10/25/2012

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It is normal!!! It is high time you learn to knock. He is no longer a little boy. He needs time to himself. I know it is bothersome, but this is normal.

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 10/23/2012

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Short answer, YES. It's common male behavior at that age. I have 2 of them. :-) They have "danglies", and they can't help playing with them!

Elaine - posted on 10/23/2012

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Don’t worry. I don’t think the word “normal” applies to any teenage boy. They all handle it differently. If you remember when he was a small child, as soon as he found that thing his hands were always holding it as if someone was going to steal it. It's basically the same thing... he's just found out how to use it. At least he’s still doing it “alone”. Kids tend to be having sex earlier and earlier these days.



I don't think there's a problem with the number of times he's doing it, only that there’s a time a place for everything. When you catch him, what do you say? Do you just say sorry and walk out of the room? Maybe you can discuss with him that he’s going through changes and that it’s best that he use extra precaution, like locking the door. Lord knows you don’t want to see him doing that… and I’m sure he doesn’t want you to witness this act either.



Just try not to embarrass him and make him understand that, that is private and he needs to choose his time and places more wisely.

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