Is it normal in America?

Miko - posted on 02/19/2013 ( 5 moms have responded )

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My boyfriend is American. (I am Asian.) His son is 19 years old. And they are going to attend a convention in other states. His son decided to bring his girlfriend to the convention with them. And now they are going to stay in the same room. (I won't be there.) It sounds like a bit creepy to me. And I thought if her parents are ok that her boyfriend's father stays in the same room with her. Is it a normal thing in America?

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Miko - posted on 02/20/2013

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Hi, Chris T,

My boyfriend and I have known each other for 3 years. So we know about each other enough. Unfortunatelly, we can not live together for now. Because I have to kids. One is almost 18 and one is 13. They don't want to move to America although they like my boyfriend a lot. My boyfriend asked me to be his bride. So we will get married someday. We visit each other's countries once a year. I will visit him in March.

He was going to attend the convention with only his son. (almost 20 years old) But his son asked his dad if it's ok to bring his girlfriend (18 years old) to the convention. The hotel doesn't have any vacunt rooms now. And my boyfriend doesn't want to pay for her hotel room. It's none of his business. Her parents has to pay for her hotel room. But maybe they don't know about it. And the girl doesn't care about staying in the same room with my boyfriend. So my boyfriend is going to bring an air matress to the hotel.

It's kinda creepy to me at first. But after I read your opinions, I got feel better. They want to save money. And my boyfriend doesn't pay for her room. So I will have to accept the situation.

Thank you so much for thinking about my question here. I felt your kind and warm heart.
Thank you so much.

Chris - posted on 02/20/2013

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Hi Miko....I think it is good for you to ask. I think if people have a choice they would get two rooms...I certainly would and not too many young men would want to share a room with their dad and girlfriend. Who would...no privacy. Now there are weird people out there and hopefully you know your boyfriend well enough that you know he is not like that. It would be very creepy if there were other motives and in that case, I would recommend you not keep that man for a boyfriend!

p.s. another thing is I would think it depends on the age of the girlfriend. I am not sure of the age that is considered a minor (under 18 or under 16) Maybe the girls parents do not know but they only need to know if she is a minor. If she is a minor then that opens up a whole new set of problems as you probably know.

Miko - posted on 02/20/2013

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Hi, Chris T,
Thank you very much for your comments. I thought of her parents feelings. It they are ok that their daughter stays in the same room with her son and his father. If they are married, it's a family and I understand. I wouldn't get feel bad. But when I heard it from my boyfriend today, I was cunfused a little. So I wanted to ask people about it. I am sorry if I ofended you about this. Again, thank you very much. I learned it's not a creepy thing at all in the U.S.

Chris - posted on 02/20/2013

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Most hotels have two double beds in them. They are probably wanting to save money and not pay another hotel room. I think it is a normal thing to do for people that can't afford to pay a hotel room. My husband shared a room with my mother and I have shared my room with my husband and my kids. I don't think the son will enjoy much romance with the father in the room but maybe the most important thing for him is just to have his girlfriend come along. NOW, if anything else is going on...well then you don't need to ask in a forum if its normal or not...

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