Manage bedwetting ...help!

Maria - posted on 07/28/2014 ( 19 moms have responded )

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Hi, I would like find some help to stop or at least manage bedwetting with older children. My daughter is almost 16 and still wets the bed. Would it ever stop? It's not everynight now, sometimes 4 for week, sometimes only 1, it depends on the period.
We tried the alarm system, bladder training program, desmopressin and nothing seems work. Different doctors told my daughter has a small weak bladder for her age and mixing it with deep sleeping could be the main bedwetting cause. They prescribed kegel exercises but this seems useless too ...or my daughters is not doing them.
According to statistics, bedwetting in teens is not so uncommon but i feel like she is the only one and i don't know how manage all this mess anymore. I use mattress protector and goodnites but about a year ago they started to leak all the times, even the adult pullups is not enough.
Have you some advice about what we could try more or lastly about some very absorbent diaper?
I'm tired of washing sheets and pajamas almost everyday, sometime mattress too. My daughter cannot sleep well and sleeping in a pee pool humiliates her (sorry for the picture). More we will on holydays for 2 weeks in august and i cannot imagine how deal with this in hotels, I need a solution now!

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Maria - posted on 07/30/2014

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Thank you a lot for the good advice. We tried to set the alarm clock in the middle of the night and the alarm that sound when she is wetting, but it has been stressful for everyone and there were no improvements (worse after few weeks she was very sleepy during the day) and usually she turn off the alarm and continues to sleep without getting up. She is not very cooperative, i think she doesn't follow physician prescriptions about kegel exercises and she doesn't drink enough during the day.
Physicians told bedwetting would stop growing up but still continues and it seems as we cannot find a way to stop it. The only option to eliminate stress seems to be waiting and manage it with adult diapers, that the physician suggested too, but before this I'm looking for some other uncommon treatment that we have not tried yet, or that I have not thought about. The main problem is the stress that come from bedwetting, for my daughter and for me too, and I would like to stop it. Until goodnites were not leaking it was tolerable, not at all now but i'm reluctant to buy the huge adult diapers, my dd would go on a rampage for that. Sometimes I think I should take the situation in hand and buy them, it could be shameful for her but still better than sleeping bad in a wet bed, sometimes i feel this is only a way to "hide" the problem leaving my daughter without help.
I think i cannot portray well all the mess about bedwetting, in reality it's a big issue and i don't know what to do now.

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 07/29/2014

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I'm so glad that the tests were ok, Maria!

At this point, it does sound like she needs to 'retrain' her bladder, which means that she'll need to get herself into a schedule of getting up at least once at night. As LTM suggested, setting an alarm for the same time each night will help the routine to develop

LTM - posted on 07/29/2014

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If you have had all the medical tests, all I can think of is to set your alarm so she never sleeps more than four hours before getting up to go to the toilet. Get her in the routine now before you go on holidays.
She just might have to be one of those adults who gets up every night for a trip to the loo. Once she gets into the routine, she's unlikely to need an alarm but her body clock will just wake her for her toilet break.
Good luck. :)

Maria - posted on 07/28/2014

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Yes, kidney function, diabetes, pelvic ultrasound, and more. They found only a not so big capacity as the average and weak bladder. She tried to drink more water in the day and hold urine more than usually to enlarge bladder but it helped just a little more, not enough to stop it. I don't know what else I can do.

Happy you found a timely solution for you son, Shawnn.
Thanks for the advice

Renae - posted on 07/28/2014

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let her drink water when she wake up and until 5pm the let her sleep 8pm u will see an improvement then see her/docter then get a medication and it will help it is happening to my 11 year old

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Kari - posted on 08/11/2018

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What do you do when she is menstruating? That's my new adventure with my 11 yr old who it's still wet most nights...

Athena Anastasia - posted on 03/11/2016

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Oh yes my son Patrick and Christian wet the bed they are both 14 and a half (twins) I don't know if it's some type of twin thing or a process because you know the average boy sprays but my diabetes Blaire and Angeline had urinary infections also a historectimy (Angelie) but...Angeline had urine issues too, Before this yes don't let them have liquid or anything that contains liquid before she dozes off or use adult diapers sorry to say but Blairelynn had to for 6 moths

Maria - posted on 02/23/2016

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We already tried alarm several times without success. We just use classic disposable adult diapers cause they are the only one kind that doesn't leak and for us they are less stressful and cheaper than mattress pads, cloth diapers, pull-ups, useing washing machine and making bed almost everyday, discontinuous sleep,...
Luckily accidents are slowly decreasing in frequency now, anyway thank you for advice and support.

Cathy - posted on 12/29/2014

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Be supportive and understanding, she would be ashamed to wear diapers. Obviously everyone prefer not wearing them but sometime it is better and you can give her many reasons to do it, as for hygiene, more comfortable nights, less laundry and work for you and less time cleaning in the morning for her. Reassure her that you will respect her privacy and tell her that wearing diapers is the choice every responsible adult would make in a similar situation and she is almost an adult.

Maria - posted on 12/24/2014

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I did look that websites and asked for samples as you suggested, thanks for the advices. We will be at relatives few days to celebrate the new year and to avoid stress I'm going to buy classic adult diapers at drugstore. I'm concerned about how to convince my daughter to wear them, obviously she is very reluctant at the idea of it but at this stage I think it is better for her.
Accidents during the day are rare cause she cannot hold pee for long time and they happened only when she had to go and it has been impossible to found a bathroom for as one hour.

Cathy - posted on 11/30/2014

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Besides my personal experience, I'm a general practitioner and I can ensure bedwetting and incontinence are not so uncommon things, your daughter is not the only one.
Do your daughter have accident during the day? Does she sleep on her side or have multiple wetting for night? Pullups are designed for moderate incontinence and basically for daytime use (standing position), in your situation i'd just go with the classic adult diapers, I wore them for bedwetting and in years their quality and comfort improved a lot, nowadays they are not so thick and bulky as at my young age! You can ask for samples on company website as depend or tena.

Maria - posted on 11/23/2014

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Unfortunately no improvements. We tried chiropractic, repeated medical tests and we had the same response, a slight small bladder. Still wet nights and a lot of laundry.

Cathy - posted on 10/30/2014

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Hi Maria. Your daughter remembers me at her age. I struggled with bedwetting a lot, it happened almost everynight until my late teen years, so I understand very well the situation. Is it going better or have you found a good way to manage it?

Maria - posted on 09/22/2014

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Hi Joanne, thanks for the advice! Sorry for late reply, thinking no more answers.
We tried four times desmopressin, last time my daughter has been on ddavp for over two months and there were only a little less wet nights. We tried to increase the dose but she had side effect, mostly headache, so doctor chose to discontinue it and honestly, besides being expensive, I don't think it's good to take drugs for so long. I would like to find a definitive solution, I hope it will stop soon for both, my daughter and your son.
We're going back to the doctors next week, i would like to ask about chiropractic, i read online sometimes it works. I'm a little skeptical about it but worth a try. Has anyone here tried it?

User - posted on 08/23/2014

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did she take her desmopressin (DDVAP) ? my son is 17 and still wets the bed when he doesn't take the desmopressin. t HE started taking them january 2013 but still needs them today.. But only had like 3 accidents this whole month so its. good but sometimes he forgets to take the pills . they work most of the time. can they incensed their dose? does she always takes the pills?

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 07/28/2014

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Have any of the physicians checked her kidney function? My son had the same problem. Turned out that he actually had a crushed urethra, which lead to his bladder backing up into his kidneys. He'd had the condition ongoing for around 8 years before we actually found a source and a solution.

Fortunately, we were able to get him attended to before he went into renal failure.

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