Marital Crisis and Inappropriate Behavior

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I have been married to my husband {not my first marriage} for almost 4 years now and we have had a strained relationship since the beginning. We have separated on several occasions due to our issues, which are causing major concern yet again. However, my main concern is with my daughter, who was 9 when we met, and now 14 and growing into a beautiful young lady. For about 2 years now my husband watches her, stares at her, looks at her inappropriately and stays very close to her at every opportunity, especially in stores when I am occupied trying to grocery shop. He acts very strange and overly protective. We are a Christian family and try to live a holy lifestyle, but this relationship and all of the fears and issues that it has brought, make it very hard to know what to do. I want to honor God above all else, but this is my daughter and my marriage and my husband...and I don't know what to do. This doesn't even cover the surface of the arrogant, critical personality he has brought into our marriage. Help!

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Jodi - posted on 12/28/2013

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It sounds to me like you need to ask yourself if this is what you want your daughter believing is a healthy relationship. Children learn about relationships from their parents, and if your relationship is unhealthy and under strain, then this is what they are learning. Children from relationships like this often struggle to know how to maintain healthy relationships later in life. Your daughter is witnessing you being a martyr in a relationship in which you are clearly not happy and in which there are ongoing relationship issues.

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