My 12 year old daughter has 5 piercings ?

Ana - posted on 06/23/2012 ( 6 moms have responded )

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Is it ok for my 12 year old daughter to have 3 piercings on one ear ( cartalige and 2 on the bottom )and 2 on the other she is turning 13 in 9 days She had the two regular piercings that almost everyone gets as a baby. A few months afer her 12th birthday she got 2 piercings right above the first and 3 months ago she got her cartilage. I was not on board with the cartilage at first but then she wrote an essay and did some research and she showed me how much she wanted it. I told her that would be her last piercing and she agreed. Should I make her close them or leave it ?? Please Help!

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Cherish - posted on 06/24/2012

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Hi,
If they are just her ears and she did research and a essay about it,it is fine,leave it.
Who cares what people think?
If people looking at her weird bothered her she would take them out.
If anything she will learn that people are judgmental,she will probably learn to ignore people,and hopefully she will learn NOT to care what others think.

It's not like she has anything weird pierced,or tattoos..lol

Kristi - posted on 06/24/2012

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My first reaction was the same as Amanda's. Why now? Did something happen to make you have 2nd thoughts, buyer's remorse? My daughter will be 13 9/1. Originally, she was going to have to wait until she was 12 to get her ears pierced. I'm kind of strict like that, if you give them too much, too fast they will have nothing to look forward to as they get older. I felt that 12 was an age at which she would be able to take care of them herself and do chores to earn money to buy new earrings. I gave in and let her get them done at 10. She had been keeping her room clean, helping around the house, doing well in school and double digits is a milestone. She has never had an infection or anything. But 5 piercings at this age would not even be open for discussion around here aside from that I'm not really sure what kind of "research" would be available to help her convince me she had a valid "arguement" for me to go against my better judgement.

All that being said, if I did agree to let her do something like that, I don't think it would be right to make her close them, barring that there has been no "less than desirable" attention she has attracted. (but that would be kind of extreme, cartlidge piercings don't usually have THAT much of an effect! haha) Like I said, I'm kind of strict with stuff like that but the other 2 moms said it's no biggie, so it's more than likely no biggie. Good luck with whatever you decide!

Amanda - posted on 06/23/2012

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Why are you concerned now? How was she able to get the cartilage piercing without your consent? The father? Having taught high school for over ten years, I see no problem with it, but if you are personally offended, it seems like something you and your daughter should have discussed before all of the piercings.

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Lady - posted on 01/06/2013

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i think you should really talk to her about this! tell her how all this piercing stuff could turn to a horrible infection,and can lead to hard time hearing! if she wants it to fit in or maybe to get boys to like her,or even trying to be what kids are saying now,''cool''! then say no to it and dont listen to the excuse! not that she thinks like that its just a lot of kids do. my advice.....think,and talk the situation through!

Ana - posted on 06/24/2012

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Thank You for the advice and no it's not because of her father ( he's not in the picture ) but it's just because I feel that whenever we go out and her hair is up people stare at it as if its a bad thing. I know I shouldn't care what others think but it bothers me that they are judging her for her earrings and I do not want that to affect her later on in life.

Denikka - posted on 06/23/2012

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I would leave it. She's already got them and she's obviously mature enough to have done her research. As long as she's taking care of them, I don't see a problem with it.

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