My 14 year old daughter is mean to her step sisters

Stacy - posted on 08/17/2016 ( 4 moms have responded )

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My daughter is very mean by giving dirty looks, refuses to partake in family activities, makes rude indirect comments about them in front of them and closes the door in their faces. My boyfriend and his 2 girls and I get along beautifully. My daughter wants nothing to do with joining in on the fun. She wants me all to herself and refuses to make friends

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JoAnne - posted on 08/25/2016

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I agree that your daughter is probably experiencing jealousy. She may feel left out, she may be angry that she has new people in her inner circle, she may not even know exactly how she feels -- she just may FEEL. Have you asked her to tell you exactly how she feels about the situation? That may make her feel valued and it may help you to know better how to help her. I also liked the other suggestions moms gave for trying to help the girls bond and I will pray for stamina and guidance for you and your boyfriend because it may take a little time to work through this.

You know everyone has a parenting book they like and think their book is the best ... I like Dr. Kevin Leman. He's a Christian psychologist and I loved his book Have a new teenager by Friday. He wrote another book Living in a Step Family without getting Stepped on, which I have not read, but based on what I know of him I think this book may be helpful for you.

Eager - posted on 08/23/2016

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Hi, Stacy! It’s obvious that your daughter loves you and she must be a bit jealous, as well. The task of building a successful blended family is definitely challenging and complicated. That’s why I think it would be a good idea if you’re a bit patient with her and give her some time to adjust and accept this change. Like Dee Erbacker said, take the girls out together, plan trips, play games, establish holiday traditions. Take lots of pictures – girls loves this! I really hope and pray things will soon fall in place for you. Hugs!

Dee - posted on 08/22/2016

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I’m sorry to hear you are going through this with your family. It sounds like you and your daughter have had a great relationship with each other and she doesn’t want that to end. Have you tried to keep the communication lines open with her and still spend one-on-one time with her? Maybe you can take all the girls out on a spa day and get the communication started between them.

Amber - posted on 08/22/2016

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That's a hard one, seems she might be a bit jelious Dw just spend time with her on her own like every Saturday take her out to the cinema or shopping maybe she will talk about it if she feels like u are surporting her on her own good luck xxxx

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