My 14 year old son

Pamela - posted on 08/07/2013 ( 3 moms have responded )




My 14 year old started staying until 2 or 3 am during the summer even after I told him to go to bed early. He spends way to much time on the computer (he says I don't understand because they didn't have computers when I grew up and this is his life). He starts High School in a week and will need to get up early. He is a stratight A student and is taking honor classes in High School. My question is how much time should we allow them to spend on the computer talking to friends and playing games? He has made good friends with people in other countries on the computer. I have met them via skipe and know they are teenangers. How to I teach him this is not a life being on the computer all day (when I am at work) and staying up all night. He is a really good and smart, computer is his downfall. Please help


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Donna - posted on 08/08/2013




My computer has a time limit on it. Once it reaches the time of 10 pm, it automatically shuts down. This can only be changed by me (password protected).
Or if you have circuit breakers in your home, find the circuit connected to his room and shut it down without him knowing. Lol. Do that a few times and the he will be discouraged.
Not following rules in a home is considered a form of disobedience no matter how small the matter. Fix the problem. Acts of defiance grows more when situations are not dealt with swiftly.

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 08/07/2013




I set a 2 hour daily limit during the school year, and only AFTER all chores and homework was done (and proven done)

As far as bedtime, I agree, in HS they pretty much have it figured out how much sleep they need to function. My oldest was an early bed kid forever, until he got out of school and started working closing shifts. My younger will try to stay up all hours, but knows that he's got to be racked out by 10 on a school night to be able to function the next day.

Enna - posted on 08/07/2013




Well, computers are pretty much what all teenagers do a lot of the time. Or use their cell phones. I would set certain times when he can't be on the computer: dinner time, homework time, maybe a couple of hours in the evening so he can get chores done or spend time as a family. If he's getting overweight, start making him do some physical activity before he gets on the computer.
Since he's in high school I think he's old enough to go to bed when he wants to. If he starts having problems getting out of bed, then set a bedtime and take away his electronics at that time.Obviously you want to keep keeping track of who he's talking to and what he's doing, just to be sure he's not doing anything dangerous or something that will get him in trouble.
If he's a good student, then I wouldn't worry about it. I know a lot of kids in the same situation, and it is how they socialize. I would just be happy that he's not out somewhere possibly getting into trouble. Much safer at home playing on the computer.

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