My 14 year old son is...

Mitzi - posted on 11/28/2015 ( 5 moms have responded )

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My 14 year old son is mouthy and has no respect for me or my partner. He twists everything I say and has a poor perspective on life from time to time. It's up and down when he can't have his own way. With his schooling, he just does care any more. I've grounded him, canceled his sporting activities and taken away his electronics but nothing seems to be making an impact. He just seems to have given up on everything. Family, his dreams, everything. What do I do?

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Rachel - posted on 11/29/2015

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Prayer is the only way ....keep praying and just staying positive and trusting the situation will turn around. Keep me posted. I pray in time everything will get better.

Mitzi - posted on 11/29/2015

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Prayer is my go to at the moment. You mentioned a mentoring program in his school I never thought of that for high school. I will give it a try.

Thank you

Rachel - posted on 11/29/2015

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Yeah teenage years change drastically especially in the times we're living in. At this age kids are looking to peers for acceptance. So, they're doing what everyone d else is.he can't be sleeping out or going against your authority. Sometimes kids get to the point where you have to get authorities involved, like the PINS program. It's for their safety and it takes it out of your hands. But try to start with counseling and talking with him. Give it some time and if that doesn't work you may need even more professional help. If you don't nip it in he butt now it willjust get worse. Even try to look for a mentor program and surround him with positive make role models. Try his school as well. See what resources they have. And be very involved. Show him your not giving up and smother him with love.

Unfortunately some kids are just too stubborn and end up learning the hard way. Sad but true. But stay consistent and stay prayerful. But absolutely do not let him run over you.

Mitzi - posted on 11/29/2015

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That is a very helpful tip. I will put that suggestion into action bease there has been a serious shift in the power of authority in our home. My 14 year old son believe's because he's taller that he does not have to respect my authority. Such as ask for permission first to go places. If I say no he goes anyways. He's sleeping out of the home overnight and I don't know where at times. He's taken on friends that I do not know that are not good for him. It's a mess. I'm now at the point where I'm concerned for his well being at times because he makes bad choices.

Rachel - posted on 11/29/2015

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Counseling seems like an option at this point. He may be dealing with something internally. He may have resentment of your relationship with your partner and acting out for attention, or to mess things up. Try alone time win him. taking him somewhere and talking to him one on one once you feel he's opening up and telling him much you love him and how Yout partner cares about him. Seems like he needs positive reinforcement and the negative reinforcement isn't working.

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