My 15 year old son refuses to get out of bed to go to school

Liz - posted on 02/04/2013 ( 2 moms have responded )




He's started a new school in January for a fresh start and has taken 5 days off 4 in the last week including today. He won't speak to his father who no longer lives with us. I don't know what to do help please


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♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 02/05/2013




What prompted the move? Did he WANT to change schools, or was this something that was decided upon by you without consulting him? Is he having problems with other students at the new school? (although I don't see how that would be a factor if he hasn't spent much time there yet). Was he being victimized at the old school, so you thought a new school would help?

Are you in the US?

The reason for the last question is that I don't understand all of these parents here (in the US) not being able to enforce school attendance. Because, here, we have truancy rules, and they must be adhered to...or there are consequences!

What prompted the "stay home" bug to move in? Have you talked to him at all about why he all of a sudden doesn't want to go to school?

If he really "doesn't want to"...then tell him he's got to enroll in classes to get his GED so that he can start working this summer. That will probably fire him right up. But, if he's been victimized before, and is falling into the victim mould again, he could be trying to avoid the situation.

Martha V - posted on 02/04/2013




Firstly, have you tried speaking to him about it? You must remember he could be homesick, and he is perhaps missing all his old friends (he has no one to talk to). One of the best ways I know is to get him involved with your community, sports and/or church as soon as possible. He needs new friends, challenges and goals which could make him feel wanted again. It sounds like he could me depressed and may need some professional help.

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