My 17 year old daughter is depressed over boyfriend

Erin - posted on 12/27/2012 ( 2 moms have responded )

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My daughter is a senior who has a boyfriend in college. He is 18 and is a perfect gentleman. They are good kids that are smart and stay away from drugs and alcohol. Despite the long distance of their relationship they text each other often and he proclaims his love to her always. The problem is his mother. She is very overbearing and controlling, from what he has told my daughter and from her constant Facebook postings about his achievements. Now that he is in for the holidays she has only seen him twice. She was certain she would be invited over his house for Christmas but the invite never came. She hasn't heard from him since Christmas Day but yet he "pokes" her through Facebook. My heart is broken watching her mope around. I have told her to move on because the mother obviously is keeping him away but she keeps defending him. I explained that this mother will always be a wedge between them. I would love to send him a message through Facebook but I know I cannot get involved as she must learn on her own. Any advice? Thanks for your help.

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Erin - posted on 01/02/2013

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Cari just wanted you to know this situation has been resolved happily. She ended up calling him and talked it all out. She told him how she felt and he felt terrible that she was hurt. He thought she wanted to spend time with her family and he didn't want to bother her. Since that talk they have better understanding of each ones feelings. All is good...today anyway. Thanks again for your input.

Cari - posted on 12/27/2012

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hard to .. answer. just keep her busy. busy busy. make her smile... Sit with her. and stay quite at times . let her come to you also.. Do not say.. " mom is awful, I told you so... etc.. " I mean that is what I would do... Let her get over it. and maybe I would say once. " you know.... sometimes in life . things do not turn out the way we plan it.. at night think hard and try to see where this is taking you, but remember one thing you always come first... and you are the most important".. also take her to movies.. do something..... that little by little step by step will maybe get better. it always does in the long run....... Keep strong.. NO NO . do not send message thru facebook. let her handle it.. just you stay positive and do not make a huge issue over this.. KEEP POSITIVE POSITIVE VIBES .. helps teens... !!!! and everyone.

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