My 17 year old son needs friends

Kim - posted on 02/26/2015 ( 2 moms have responded )

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My 17 year old son has no close social relationships. He is a junior in high school and only has acquaintances. He told me last night that he has come to accept the fact that he will never have a girlfriend in high school. He said he is worried that it may never happen in college either. He is a smart, good looking, funny kid, but for some reason can not make connections that go beyond the acquaintance level. He goes to therapy because he use to be very introverted and he has made a great effort to "put himself out there" but nothing has worked. He keeps getting rejected. I just don't know how to help him, and I know he is very lonely. It doesn't help that his 14 year old brother is very social and has many options for things to do on the weekends. I know my son feels like he is the only boy in high school that has never had a girlfriend. It breaks my heart to see him hurting. I honestly don't know how to help him. He is feeling like there must be something wrong with him that makes people not like him, and I am afraid he is going to become depressed.
Kim

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Jennifer - posted on 03/04/2015

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YOUR SON NEEDS TO PICK UP HIS GAME AND MAKE NEW FRIENDS! HE NEEDS TO START BEING CONFIDENT!!

Love Jennifer ♥

Trisha - posted on 02/26/2015

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Your son likely just lacks in confidence. He may not find anyone in highschool, but many women are attracted to the meek, mild tempered man. Especially after they realized what Arseholes the confident Highschool kids are like.
I didn't start dating in highschool until I was 17 myself. Granted, I had 'internet boyfriends' from when I was 12-16 (2 different ones) Even with friends I didn't have any close friends at school. My first boyfriend/husband, was initially an acquaintance from highschool who I chatted with online. I don't think that I would have had the confidence to flirt, let him know there were feelings there had I not gotten to know him first though online means first, as strange as that sounds.

It will happen in time with your son. There is very likely a few girls that like him, but are too shy to approach him, and he is likely the same way.

I was very introverted as a teenager, and it was not until I was an adult that I had people tell me they crushed on me in highschool.

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