my 9 year old minipulated everyone and lies and steals.

Victoria - posted on 07/17/2016 ( 2 moms have responded )

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My nine year old daughter is very advanced for her years and has been my primary carer for two years. The problem is that I think she has been making more work for me to make me bedridden so she cpuld gain cpntrol. These past few weeks I have realised that most if not all of her personality is a lie. She has also stolen from me and I think she has been doing for some time. My friends have realised she has manipulated them and lied in order to get attention. I feel like I dont even know her and feel the same as I did when her father did the same thing. I have taken all of her toys and her phone so she cant text anyone. My friends have told her they have seen through her and we know she fooled us all. She sees a play therapist as she claimed to have ptsd due to her father being violent to me. I am now doubting that and my daughter is so calculating that the therapist hasnt picked up on any of this. The thing is she is so clever she would fool a doctor as she has us for years
I have tried every punishment I can think of. She doesnt care. She has minipulated several adults and I have now concluded she doesnt have "trust issues" the adults she wouldnt let in were the ones who would suss her out. Her whole life has been a lie and she isnt who she makes out. Where do I go from here. She hasnt cared for me for some time. Help please xx

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Victoria - posted on 07/17/2016

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I have given further explanation on the other post. I need advice not critisism. I dont mean to come across as awful but my post was about how to deal with her behaviour not about her previous now none exsistent role

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 07/17/2016

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First, you NINE yo is YOUR primary caregiver? Do you mean NINETEEN?

Second, if the child is only nine, why is she caring for you? If you need care, you need an adult caregiver. Third, if she is only nine, why does she have a cell phone? How does she have the freedom to running rampant, at the age of nine?

If she is only nine, and she has behavioural issues, she needs to be in counseling.

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