My husband isolates my 17 year old daughter from the family...breaking my heart

Abigailbryan - posted on 12/08/2014 ( 6 moms have responded )

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I met my husband when I was a single Mum to my 7 year old daughter. We are now married with a 9 and 7 year old . My daughter will be 18 next week. My daughter failed at school and can't keep a job down.. I understand his frustrations but she's my daughter. I'm Mum to all my children and don't know what to do!

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Felicity - posted on 01/21/2015

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I agree with what another commenter has said about talking to your husband. Children come before spouses and she's your daughter.

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Jackie - posted on 02/16/2015

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I agree with Felicity. At the end of the day this is YOUR daughter. No child can outgrow the need for a parent-you need to talk to your husband or you'll regret not having spoken out for her. To her you'll have chosen him over her. He needs to know she is just as important as he is to you. Does she have a drug problem?

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 01/23/2015

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Forced isolation is not ok, and needs to be addressed. Do so with your husband, and come up with a parenting plan for all of your kids that is agreeable to both.

However, your (now) adult daughter seems to not understand her responsibilities at school and work, and needs to learn.

You need to help her learn by enforcing consequences, getting her under contract to live as an adult child in your home, and outlining your expectations of her as a tenant/boarder. It seems that you may want to continue to coddle her because she's your kid, but you'll be doing her no favours.

Sarah - posted on 12/11/2014

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Is her stepdad isolating her to teach her a lesson that it's not okay to fail school and not okay to keep her job commitments because if so he is being a good parent and cares for her a lot

Abigailbryan - posted on 12/09/2014

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Thank you for your reply.. It's so hard when I have further children by my husband. Sometimes I just want to cocoon all my children with the help of no man but my husband is a truly amazing Daddy to his biological children and I can't deprive the younger 2 of their Father being here full time. My eldest is seriously hard work and I get that.. However... As her Mother .... My love and support and being there is unconditional. I wish I could make it all ok for everyone :-(

Rebecca - posted on 12/09/2014

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Catch 22. I feel for you.
First and foremost is the emotional and psychological welfare of your daughter.
I understand your husband has isolated her because she is not his blood. This is a poisonous reasoning. You need for the sake of your daughter to have a serious conversation to your husband regarding including your daughter into the rest of her family.
No wonder she's not doing well in life. Poor girl.
You need to be your daughter's advocate. Do not give up. If you do, what kind of signal would that be?

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