My oldest is 19 my youngest 10, am I crazy to want another baby??

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My oldest is 19, my youngest is 10 am I crazy to have another? I'll be 37 my age isn't really the issue. In fact I still consider myself young. BUT started very young, 17, SO I thought I would finish young. I'm not sure if I want to raise kids ALL my life... In about 8 years ill be done! But before we close the baby shop and honestly Im not sure. My husband said he will be happy either way. Just wondering if anyone else has their kids with a big range apart?


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Mel - posted on 11/02/2012




If its what you want, do it, eldest has turned 18 (son), my stepdaughter 16, my 2nd is 12 (daughter), and my youngest is 4, I am 38, and wouldn't change it for the world, just remember you have to relate to different age groups, and my 18yr old and 4 yr old get along together better than my 12yr old but i think that is hormones

User - posted on 11/01/2012




I am due for our third (and probably last) in may and our oldest will maybe have turned just 4. It is not exactly what we were planning but after thinking it through I truly believe it will be a wonderful thing. I will be 45 when our youngest turns 18. I am looking forward to still being young(ish) when I'm done childrearing. My husband and I haven't had a chance to do lots of things we wanted to in life (as far as traveling and spending our money on non-essential extra's (maybe a hot tub?)) I love my babies and am really enjoying dedicating my whole self to being a mom right now but I am looking forward to being able to be a little selfish again. Also I will be looking forward to some grandchildren at some point. I know this is not right for everyone but I just thought I would give you some perspective on the other side of the spectrum. Either way babies are always a blessing. Good luck!

Starr - posted on 10/30/2012




I went thru this and decided I had to have a baby. I now have a two year old, a fourteen year old and a 16 year old. It has been such a blessing to our family, I couldn't image a day without my little bug. The older ones have been involved since day one and absolutely adore their little sister. We seem to appreciate her much more now having experienced just how fast they do grow up. It is a little crazy at times especially when we were so used to having independent kids, now there is no such thing as a quick run to the store, haha... I was almost 37 when she was born, the doctors make such a big deal about age, I was so stressed about it throughout my pregnancy when in reality people are having babies much older these days. While it is a concern I wouldn't stress too much about the age thing. Many women these days are over 35 and just now starting their families. From my experience it did take a lot longer to actually get pregnant this time, over two years for us, we're not sure why that was but it may be something to consider as well.

Kristin - posted on 10/30/2012




It is a decision that is completely up to you and your husband. I had my first son at 16 and he is now 16 my middle son is 6 almost 7 and my daughter is 18 months. It is hard to have to switch mind frames from teen to school age to baby, plus starting over was rough but i wanted a little girl lol my last child was born when i was 32 and i am done having kids i could be a grandmother before my youngest is even out of the house lol so it sometimes bothers me as well as i did not bounce back as quickly from having my daughter as I did having my sons. Keep in mind that over the age of 36 is when mothers are in extreme danger of having down syndrome babies and are at higher risk health wise. If I were you I would weigh all the pros and cons of having another child, factor in that both children will feel jealousy towards the new baby and your freedom will be gone yet again and it will be back to car seats sleepless nights baby gates and all of that. Do not get me wrong i love my kids but I wish their was not such a big age gap between them. keep in mind as well that the possibility of being a granparent in the next 5 to 10 years is a very high possibility especially since your oldest is already 19. Good luck and you will make the best decision for you and your family.

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