My son is 16 and is Bipolar ADHD,Dyslexia and anger agression,he is now truant and we have to go to court what help can I get?

Crystal Lynn - posted on 12/07/2013 ( 1 mom has responded )

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He has been to 3 therapist,Mental hospital, now number 2 clinic and I had went to the board of education and the state government for help and special need and had to beg the school for IEP meeting.I told them he could not do the school work,they would not listen to me and my husband set there like a dumb rock.Dylan said he was afraid to go to school he is on number 6 medicine and he might have an episode at school.We live in TN and they have SRO officers and he thinks they might kill him if he has a Bipolar fit.Went the youth services with my husband and they looked at his absents and his behavior and said the only way to get him to school is court.I just started crying and left.I can not find any advocates here in TN to help me but a social worker is trying to help me get him home bound..I would home school him but my husband doesn't want me to .Please someone give me some advice I am so stressed I am ready to go to therapy.

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Jean - posted on 12/10/2013

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Have you asked your son to come up with some ideas of what would work for him? I also HIGHLY recommend getting him into a martial arts or equine therapy program - these are designed to help people see their strengths. It must be hard for him to see his. With all of the focus on his shortcomings working with him to achieve whatever goals he outlines for himself (and he CAN achieve anything he wants to - but he needs to know where he is going) and celebrating the milestones (and defeats - they are learning tools) along the way will help him to lift the perceived weight and unfairness of his diagnosis. Instead of trying to fix everything ask HIM what he wants to do. Bear in mind that initially he might say "I don't know" or "I want to be an astronaut" in a crappy teenage voice. Don't react with anger or impatience, just say, "I'm really serious, the world is a big place with unlimited opportunity. There are other ways to get where you want to be besides school (although I'd like you to graduate). If you had a magic wand and could wave it what would you want as a career? Then ask him to outline a plan to get there and ask him what he needs from you to get there. It is possible and he needs to realize he is stronger than he knows. Trying to fix things makes him think you don't think he is capable.

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