My son's girlfriend

Lynn - posted on 11/24/2012 ( 5 moms have responded )

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I can't stand my 16 year old son Jarrod's girlfriend.Her name is Jaime,disrespectful around me and rude,she is 16 too.Does things I can't can't stand.Pulled a prank on me I did not like on Wendsday,put a fake rubber snake on top of the stove and I freaked right out.She was laughing thinking it was funny,I can't stand snakes.Burps out loud,she has no manners at all.I had a talk with him on this,he says that he loves her and not concerned that I don't like her.His father is concerned too and he does not like her also.His father and I have given him an ultimatuim,dump her and he won't do it.What can we do?It gets worse,she wants a baby with him and I told him I am not ready to become a grandmother.I am 33 and made the mistake,found out I was pregnant with him when I was 16 and gave birth to him when I was 17.I told him this and he seems to listen to me about this part.

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Desiree - posted on 11/25/2012

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so glad things are working out for you may GOD continue to bless you & yours

Desiree - posted on 11/25/2012

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go to her parents let the girl & her parents know you do not want there child around your child your son is not 18 yet you have to let him know that you ant gonna be playing games with him or his little girlfriend what you say goes you will not tolerate any child disrespecting you furthermore a child who wants to become preg-net is endangering your child well being let them know if that you will take legal action restraining order,call cps etc your situation may not seem that dangerous however it can become very dier if you do not enforce control now ounce the kids see that you are serious & will take necessary action they will more then likely change there tune & you can re evaluate the situation once they understand that you are the mother & you are in control

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Lynn - posted on 11/25/2012

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I know Jaime is not telling the truth either and her parents told me I am right.Does not look 16 and her parents told me she is 21 years old.Her parents told me she has a statitory rape conviction on her record,had sex with a 14 year old boy last year caught on the spot.

Michelle - posted on 11/25/2012

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Your son is 16, you cannot choose who he dates or hangs out with what you have to do is instill a set of boundaries as to when he can see her and how often. He is going to be upset he is going to tell you he hates you and every other name in the book. However if you ban him from seeing her at all I will guarantee you they will see each other and you will end up a grandma at 33. The more you push this issue the more he is going to dig in and push back. Talk to him about the pregnancy thing and about being responsible. Let him know that even though you do not like his choice you will support him no matter what. Explain to him that he needs to discuss with his girlfriend that she needs to be respectful of both you and husband while in your home, but also remember like your son she is just a child and does stupid things.It sounds to me like her parents have not taught her proper manners and maybe your son can help her out in this department don't push them apart give your son the tools to learn how to compromise and stay safe in this relationship.

Lynn - posted on 11/25/2012

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I have talked to her parents,we are going to have a meeting on this and going to work with me on this.They were not too happy when I told him that she wants a child with my son.Her parents did not like when I told them she disrespects me.Jaime did burp into my left ear once,I was drinking a beer at the time and almost spilled my beer.Told her out of my house now.My son is getting it a little bit right now and realizing I am right.My life was not easy after my son was born and I told him this.

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