My sonsmokes pot and ciggarettes. Getting failing grades, steals from me (his mother and stepfather) lazy, spits all over the house. Trust me, I have done and received counseling for him with a family therapist. Nothing worked. So now, he is in a drug treatment program and is living full time with his dad whom hasn't had a relationship for about 3 years (only off and on) because he can't get along with him. Also, for about the last year my son and his stepdad do not get along because of his attitude and stealing. I'm sad all the time because I miss him. I have had custody of him since the divorce in 2005. It breaks my heart that him and his stepdad cannot get along becauseI love my new husband so much. Anyway,I feel like I have failed as a parent.


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Kathaleen - posted on 12/19/2011




I feel your pain, i have a 18 yr old boy that i had to kick out to go and live with his grandparents for a few munths to get his act to gether was the plan ,well it failed he mett a girl and now lives with her and her family, he faught with his step dad who raised him sense he was 6yrs old when he reached 16 the fighting started and attitude. Now my other son that just turned 17 had moved out to live with his girlfriend but this one never fights with us.. so confussing when you love and give all you have to your kids and they leave it hurts and you feel like you did something wrong as a parent.. atleast i do.. you just have to be strong keep your head up high and be confident in the decisions you made with them. they will learn one day.

Dee - posted on 12/05/2011




Hi Crystal!
Thanks for your response! It's always nice to know that you are not alone. If I may ask, where did your daughter move? Maybe an intervention regarding her drug habit? I don't know your whole story but I certainly wish you well and feel free to reply to my post whenever you want. I know what you mean when you say that she has lost her way and doesn't care, my son has the same attitude. He is also my only child so I feel like I only have one shot at this. I hope to hear from you again, like I said, it's nice to know that I am not alone.
~Feeling your pain,
Dee Dee

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Please don't feel like you failed as a parent. I am feeling your pain because my 17 year old daughter moved out. She is failing school and only going because the truancy officer is making her. She is smoking crack cocaine and pot and having random sex with God-knows-who. I am at my wits end--she had it made here! She was going to driver ed and we were about to buy her a car, she had no real responsibilities except school--she is supposed to graduate in May. I am at a loss for what to do for her--she has lost her way and doesn't care.

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