my soon to be 16 year-old daughter just told me she's pregnant

Kerry - posted on 02/18/2014 ( 13 moms have responded )

12

0

0

My daughter will be 16 in a month and a half. Tonight she informed me she is pregnant. I have been fighting with her father for nine years over custody of her and her younger brother. I am a very observant mom that has been deemed overbearing and controlling, because I keep tabs on my children and who they are hanging out with. Their father has drug and alcohol problems and the whole point in me fighting for full custody of my children was to protect them! Apparently my daughter had sex with this boy at a birthday party. I am scared that now the state will give her to her father.

13 Comments

View replies by

Kerry - posted on 02/24/2014

12

0

0

In this state as long as both are between 15 and 17 there is no crime. Then between 16 and 19 or both in high school still. There are quite a few varriables here.

Megan - posted on 02/23/2014

13

20

0

Big hugs to you guys. I am a widow raising 2 girls and 1boy alone. My oldest decided to quit school (she is 19) and move in with her boyfriend. I expect baby news any day now.
My 13 year old decided to 'go all the way' and was immediately terrified of pregnancy and came right to me. BTW...I found out in GA both my daughter and the boy (same age) could be charged with a felony because they are both underage. No to be a Negative Nancy but that is just another thing you guys should be aware of... (Oh and she wasn't pregnant.)

Kerry - posted on 02/21/2014

12

0

0

We are at her first apt rt now! I excited and scared and nervous for her! We have always been VERY close thus she came to me! She was old enough with her younger brothers to remember all the fun stuff I always included her in! I thank GOD that through all of the custody garbage I have managed to keep all my children together!

User - posted on 02/20/2014

6

0

3

Wow scary! You now need to start thinking about your grandchild and helping your daughter be the best mom she can be... she doesn't get to be a teenager anymore, she has to be a mom now. only you can help with that :) Find this to be a way to get closer to her... talk about how excited and scared you were, about her dr appointments, heart-beats, butterflies, all the best mom stuff... she will be drawn to your nurturing so that she can nurture her baby! This could be JUST the ticket to get her home! Best of luck!

Kerry - posted on 02/20/2014

12

0

0

Thank you Angela! We have both made the decision to embrace whatever it is the LORD has in store for us! Together she'll be able to do whatever needs doing!!

Kerry - posted on 02/19/2014

12

0

0

Shawnn,
There doesn't seem to be a defined age here. What is a surd thing is that my girl has made enormous gai s away from her father.
We are talking two total opposite lifestyle's. One with drug and alcohol abuse lacking in affection and discipline and the other structured and substance/dependence free! I was young when I divorced (agreeing out of feer) and younger still when I first married.
Thankfully my girl had a path she is determined to fallow, and thankfully she never needs to worry about my position! I am greatful we have a good solid relationship, she comes to me about anything. She knows I may not like what I am hearing but I'll never react in such a way as to instill fear or inflict pain!
My daughter knows I have faught for my children and will forever do so!

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 02/19/2014

13,264

21

2015

Well, I do know that the ages differ by state, so that could be the case there...or, it could be a case of the judge and the upper hand...

Either way, just be supportive of her. She's scared, and unsure, and with the whole custody question anyway, I'm fairly certain she's not sure where she stands with either you or her dad.

Good luck with everything. Is she talking/communicating with you at all?

Kerry - posted on 02/19/2014

12

0

0

according to this particular judge that she doesn't have a choice until she's 18 now I don't know if that's a factual or if its just a judge trying to uses upper hand to control things.

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 02/19/2014

13,264

21

2015

First, what are the laws in your state regarding the age at which the child's choice be taken into consideration? Most states are around 11-13...so I'm surprised she's not gotten a choice prior to now.

Join Circle of Moms

Sign up for Circle of Moms and be a part of this community! Membership is just one click away.

Join Circle of Moms