My teenage daughter was bullied in grade school and has hard time making friends

Diane - posted on 12/15/2012 ( 4 moms have responded )

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My teenage daughter is 14, and a freshman in high school. She had a best friend in grade school for years, who basically turned on her and they are no longer friends. The other girl is now with a group of girls who had previously excluded, made terrible comments to my daughter, and even went as far as telling her to "go kill yourself"...the grade school was of little help. Now we are in high school, the old friend is also thea
there, but only in 1 class and lunch. My daughter is having a difficult
time making other friends, and now wants to change schools or
let me allow "home schooling". I keep trying to encourage her
and want her to stay , meet other people, and get involved in
some activities. She isn't interested...and wants to transfer.
Any advise? I talked to the high school and they are trying to work
with me, they have spoken to her, and are trying to ger her involved
in taking photos at plays, etc. Is this a time I help encourage her to
stay, or should I try to find another school? Help!

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Set The Right Example For Your - posted on 12/16/2012

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This can be the hardest thing to deal with because you don't know what is going on behind the scenes with her friends. I think you should try councelling and if she isn't finding it satisfying you need to convince her results WILL come if she keeps going, it just takes a while.

Diane - posted on 12/15/2012

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Thank you!!!! I am so worried about her.....and you are right....kids process and handle things so much differently than we do. I just want her to grow up knowing how great she is, how special...I appreciate you taking the time to comment...

Michelle - posted on 12/15/2012

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I would let her move schools give her a fresh start where no one knows her this way she can reinvent herself and hopefully have a positive outlook on life.

Ana - posted on 12/15/2012

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Wow, I would say get your daughter some counseling quickly..

I say this because you need to be aware of how serious this really is. If she is depressed about it, I mean, I think it's pretty serious because just imagine if you wanted to quit your job or church or someplace where you go because of how someone there treated you. She still feels harassed by this....

We as adults handle it better and know what to do, but teenagers are really emotional, and will often make their own choices just to feel better, even if that means, ditching school, or getting into other activities that keep them from dealing with the stress..

If it were my daughter, and I have 1 and am preg with another, I would get her counseling, probably take her out of school for a minute (medical recommendation, just to get her fully evaluated) and then go from there.

Problem is, all kids, just like adults have someone at school that they don't like or get along with, but with words like "Go kill yourself", and loosing a best friend right before highschool is a lot....especially with all the other pressures you have being in the 9th grade...older boys, college prep, more dangerous peer perssures, making friends, sometimes part time jobs, or money issues, etc...

It's really about your daughter and her feeling safe and comfortable to just go to school and be normal, there will be other situations like this, so she will need skills to handle this at some point, because you don't want her to be a victim, or appear to be scared of people who try to put her down..she'll need some self esteem boosting, but as a parent, there are so many ways that this can happen, once she feels safe. She asked to be moved from the school because she feels there is nothing she can do to protect herself, so as a mom, I'm just like you, i'd be all over it.

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