My teenage son is steeling underwear

Lucitta - posted on 03/16/2015 ( 22 moms have responded )

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Hello. This is my first post here, so I apologize if this is in the wrong area, or if this subject is taboo.
Lately I've been noticing that my underwear has been vanishing from my laundry bin, and turning up again a few days later in the dryer. I didn't really think much of it.
Today, I was going for my oldest sons laundry and I thought it smelled a little funny. When I was putting it in the washing machine, I was picking through it to try to find the source. I discovered 2 pairs of my underwear, with noticeable seamen stains on them. Not only this, but I found a pair of my daughters as well.
I think it's pretty obvious he's been steeling our underwear and using them for self satisfaction. My question is should I bring this up to him, and my follow up question is, should I tell his sister about this. I don't want to embarrass him, but I feel it's not right to let him keep steeling from his sister without her knowing, even if he's sneaking the underwear back in to rotation.
Any answers will be greatly appreciated.
Thank you.
Lucitta.
(My son is 13, my daughter is 15.)

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Maria - posted on 04/12/2015

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I would buy him the panties. Its not just the scent but also the feel. My son had the same problem and I bought him some pairs of his own. Make sure to ask if he like thongs or briefs and what sort of material he would prefer.

Larry Edward - posted on 04/17/2015

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Hi, I have written at considerable length about my fascination with my mom's panties under the 'My 13 Year-Old Son Wearing my Panties...Again!' conversation with my post dated March 8, 2015. I strongly recommend that you read my comments and those of others (144) in that conversation as it might give you some insight as what motivates such behavior. Your son's panty fetish itself is not so much of a problem but the stealing aspect is troubling. I believe that there is some underlying shame. It should also be kept in mind that in today's hi-tech internet age, there are many adult videos and stories and sites about sons fantasizing about mothers catching them in similar sexual situations. These powerful erotic films and stories are often the source of behaviors like your son's. Having said that, I too went though a period of intense sexual curiosity and experimentation with panties long before such graphic material was available. I only had access to mail-order catalogs! Again, please read my other lengthy post and how it was handled. I do recommend that you talk to your son and possibly seek counseling. Again, panties aren't the problem, stealing is! Good Luck!

Mr - posted on 07/20/2017

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Just give him some of your dirty panties or buy them n wear them n give them to him. He will leave your stuff alone but if you got good pussy than you can make the scent last longer.. trust me them kind of fetishes don't go away so easily. It has a lot to do with the scent & what type they are. Lingerie is common.

Lucitta - posted on 03/17/2015

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Thank you for your comment.
We discussed this tonight, while his siblings were out, and I was told it would stop, but I don't think it will.
I am considering purchasing him womens underwear that he can use exclusively for this purpose, although from what I understand the appeal is more so in the scent then the fabrics, so I don't think this will help.
What do you think of this idea?

Raye - posted on 03/17/2015

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You should calmly bring it up to him that you found the panties in his basket, and that he should not be taking them. Let him know that it's okay to "take care of business" in the privacy of his room, but it's not okay to use things that don't belong to him.

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Alfred - posted on 05/03/2017

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The scent and the idea of your scent and that of your daughters scent is what he wants and no number of new panties will help him. Why not contact me on sgt4696@gmail.com

Alfred - posted on 05/03/2017

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Hi Lucinda
Why not contact me on sgt4696@gmail.com and maybe I can help you more about it.

Linda - posted on 04/23/2017

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Hi There the best solution from this situation is to talk to him about it and only him. The best thing to do is do what i did and tell him you know all about his secret wearing girls panties. But also tell him it is normal and quite common for a teenage young man. Be slow and very understanding. Their is no cure for this its something that he just urges to do.The best solution then is it might sound silly but it is to buy him some panties for him self. sometimes the more feminine the better. Give him several pairs and reassure him no one else will ever know as long as he only wears his girls panties and no one else's. And if he ever puts on anyone else's panties on and does something in them everyone will know his dirty secret. But tell him theirs nothing wrong with having his own panties. It will not hurt him or change him in anyway.

T - posted on 10/20/2016

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Hey there. Im 18 years old and im here to tell you that this is completely normal and natural. When i was 13 - 16 i was curious about my sexuality, now at 18 im aware and accepting of my sexuality.

This kind of thing is VERY common. When i was this age i stole panties/thongs from my step-mom, (along with her adult toy, but thats a different story), so i could smell, taste, wear, and model them on myself. I would choose the cutest ones i could find and id try them all on and take lots of pictures of myself. One day in 8th grade my step-mother noticed i was wearing her panties under my shorts, and pulled me aside. She told that it was very uncomfortable for her and also rather inappropriate. Once she had finished explaing i took off the panties and gave her all of the panties back, (she promised not to tell my dad too - thank god!), and we continued talking about sex and sexuality. She asked me why it i was taking her panties and i told her all the various reasons. Fortunatly for me, my step-mom is very understanding, and offered to take me to lasenza to get fitted and buy me a bunch of my own panties and thongs (this however, does not let you sniff or taste previous wearers). Ive now, just recently, come out to a few of my friends about my sexuality, (i can be attracted to/fall in love with any person - regardless or gender, age, ethnicity, or background), and i feel a lot better about myself. I still wear ladies panties/thongs everyday, as they make me feel very good about myself (and i have a bit of a crossdressing fetish, sometimes i really feel like a girl so ill dress like one all day - i even go by a different, more feminine name.

Alfred - posted on 06/28/2016

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i will be honest with you as i think you might need to undrstand a couple of things. I am going to speak honestly and openly so please do not understand this in a perverse manner. Boys at that age are very frustrated and insecure sexually. they need to practise things that they want to do or feel before they are with a real female. most boys need to release their sperm and feel in their own minds that they are satisfying the lady. The only female they trust will be their mother and boys feel comfortable tasting and smelling their underwear. Boys NEED to be allowed to transition through the stage of childhood to adulthood via puberty in their own way. Some boys will jerk off to the instructions of a tampon if the can see a vagina. As long as you do not discuss issues relating to masturbation with them (unless they want you to) then it should be ok for them to do this. I think its healthy and very good for them as they become less stressed and sexually more calm later in life.

Carl - posted on 02/11/2016

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How do you know he is just getting excited from looking and feeling? I put on my older sisters panties for the first time when I was 13. I preferred clean, but if there was less chance of getting caught, I would put on used. I loved the idea of being a part of the world of femininity in an intimate maner. I still wear them and now prefer to masturbate while wearing them, as opposed to being intimate with my wife.I have spent a tremendous amount of time, energy and a lot of money buying pretty panties, bras and other lingerie. I spend a lot of time wearing them and finding situations where I can interact with other like minded people. I recognize these are not a desirable inclinations. The better the relationship a person has with their spouse, the happier they will be. Plus, it is not fair to my wife to misplace my sexual energy in this fashion. I have known other men that followed a similar path. None of them have a good relationship with their spouse or they are devorced. I hope your son does not pursue this behavior. Steeling is definitely problematic. However, the panty wearing is potentially a more devastating behavior. I can not see how buying your son panties will do anything other than encouraging him to choose a wrongful path in life. I'm sure it is just a phase to many panty boys, but it may not be. If your son feels loved, has a solid relationship with his parents and communicates well with them, there is less chance it will remain a problem. In any case, I would not encourage it.

Larry Edward - posted on 08/11/2015

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For some, the thrill of engaging in something taboo that involves risk makes the activity all the more pleasurable. You might also be correct about the scent as this is the closest boys can get to sniffing and fondling female genitals. A mother's under garments are often the most accessible to satisfy a boy's curiosity about the opposite sex. So are treasured moments like sneaking peeks of mother in the nude. Mothers are less intimidating for some boys who are lacking the social skills and confidence to approach girls their own age.

Lucitta - posted on 04/17/2015

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Hello, Larry.
Thank you for your comment. He isn't using them to wear, he is using them strictly for manual labor, so I'm not sure if it is going to relate to you wearing them.

Thank you.

Lucitta - posted on 04/13/2015

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Thank you, Maria.
I did buy him his own and no more pairs of my or my daughters panties have vanished and reappeared.

Lucitta - posted on 03/18/2015

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Unfortunately our bedrooms don't have locks. I have been much quicker to empty the dryer though.
Thank you for your response.

Heidi - posted on 03/18/2015

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We had the same problem with my 14year old son. We end up making sure we don't leave my underwear in the washer or dryer and locking our bedroom door when we are out.

Lucitta - posted on 03/18/2015

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Thank you for continueing the dialog with me.
I'm still kicking around the idea of buying some, but I believe you're right, it's not the fabric that does it, it's that they are worn. I've read up on this somewhat, and I believe it's not due to any attraction to us, we're just the only females he has access to. In other words, all I can do is hope he keeps his word.
Where do you stand on me telling my daughter? I feel as if it were me, I would want to know, but I also feel as if it would only make things worse for Marzio, having his sister know. Plus, I don't want it to get out if she feels the need to tell her friends.

Raye - posted on 03/18/2015

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I would not by the panties for him.

As far as what the appeal is to use your or your daughter's panties... it could be the feel of the fabric (if they're satiny or lacy). It could be that he knows they are used and has secretions on them. Could just be the secrecy and that he knows it's wrong to take them. In the last two instances, it would not help to buy him his own because that would not provide the same thrill.

If you find he does it again, just mention to him that you talked about it already, and he knows better.

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