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Lisa - posted on 03/10/2009

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I try to remember how old Jacob is...and train him accordingly...I think it is so complicated with older sibs..also I have found sometimes I have to make Jacob give Forest and Rach there space and stay out of their rooms or not participate in their activities...kinda of respect of boundaries..Balance is the key...but very difficult...

Deena - posted on 01/21/2009

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What a great group.  Thanks for this great place to share!  My kids are 16, 12 and 4mo. (God surprised us this year) We also ask our older kids to watch the baby for short times without paying them.  I am trying to be careful not to abuse this.  I always ask and give them choices, but watching the baby is part of being a family and helping each other out.  So far they are happy to help out.



Also the first two fought a lot ( I thougth they wouldn't fight because they were far enough apart lol) but are getting along better now.  I hope they will be great friends as adults.

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Nicole - posted on 09/09/2013

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I have a sixteen year old daughter who just dating. They go to the same school, they Constantly talk on the every day. But here's the problem. I told the young man not to call during school days, cause my daughter needs to study. He still calls after I told not too call her on the week days. The first time he call I explain to him not to call, but he calls anyway
So I talk to his mother. And told her about it and she talked to her son, about not calling but he stills calls

Michele - posted on 03/25/2013

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is this still current?? I have 4 boys.....ages 15,12,8 and 5!!! need some advice!!!

Jessica - posted on 06/26/2012

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What a great group! Mine are 16, 4, 4 & 3. The challenge of keeping everyone happy and entertained is something that not many other moms understand.

Kristin - posted on 03/03/2012

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Ok I have an 18 yr old daughter who I want to go to college and live in a dorm. We need a break from all of her attitude but she is refusing to leave!!! 3 other kids at home youngest 2, and she is starting to bully them. How do I get her to go? She says she is scared to leave and doesn't want to live with people because she finds them annoying. Has had issues with anxiety in the past, but nothing like this. (oh and a 16 year old boyfriend to boot) Anybody out there feeling my pain?????

Erika - posted on 12/13/2011

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Hello:-) .. I'm glad I could find a group where I could approach to...

OK, let me start.. I am a mom w/2children (8 and 4 y/o) and currently "raising" my teenage nephew(16) I have his temporary custody until he finish school, probably senior grade.

His mother send him to me with the hope that he can do better in school and because he was giving her and everyone in the house a hard time w/his behavior in and out of school.

Now he's trying to have the same habits w/me at home (which its making me feel uncomfortable). At least so far he's doing good @ school w/grades and also he's out of trouble. The only problem that worries me now its the time that he's going to sleep, the way he spends the day at home. (Computer and cellphone its always his distraction) and not to mention when its time to wake up to get ready t go to school, no matter how early I wake all up, he gets his way to finish, after anyone else in the house. I'm sacrifying my children to wake up early in the morning to arrive on time, but its impossible. Either he's the one that take so long in the bathroom, or my kids don't get enough sleep and I end up yelling like crazy to wake them up!.. I need an advice or a strategy i could use, what strategies of disciplining a teenager should I use? Thanks:-)

Beth - posted on 08/17/2011

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My daughters are 14 & 4 and my sons are 3, 2 & 1. My teenager is often extremely annoyed that everything is no longer all about her!

Davenia - posted on 07/04/2010

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Hi everyone! I have a 17 year old and a 1 year old. At first it was really tough because the 17 year old was the only child for so long, so she really didn't like her brother when he was born. Now she absolutely adores him and is a big help, but there still is a jealousy issue. I do ask her to babysit every once in a while, but I don't abuse it and sometimes she gets money or I get her stuff at the store, I don't go out often unless I am taking them both.

Joan - posted on 06/04/2010

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Hi everyone
I have a 17 year old girl, a 14 year old boy and a 3 year old girl. Does anyone have a jealousy issue. My teen girl is not handling not being the only girl now. She has two step brothers on with her dad. I never expected my older children to have jealousy issues.

Nadine - posted on 05/15/2010

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Love this group I have two boys 15 and 3. Once in a while I'll havae my older son babysite but I don't pay him. Maybe once in a while I'll give him a couple of dollars as thanks, but I think its something that should do as part of the family. I don't abuse it I rarely go out without the youngest one.

Christine - posted on 04/05/2010

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HI! What a great group! I have 5 kids - 14yrs, 13yrs, 10yrs, 5 yrs and 2 1/2yrs. So we have issues in pretty much every age group at the moment!

Diana - posted on 03/23/2010

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Wow, I find people look at me like I'm insane when they hear the age difference between my two babes, glad to have found this community! My son is 17 years old and my daughter is 22 months old, 19 months corrected. She was born extremely premature, but she is perfect in every way!

Silka - posted on 02/21/2010

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I have a 16 year old girl, 12 year old boy, and 2 year old girl, and trying for one more. Phew! Anyone have issues with step-parenting? My husband and my older two kids have a hard time getting along. I tell my older kids it's because my husband is only a "2 year old dad" and he doesn't know how to parent teens yet. It's really hard sometimes as I feel like a single parent when it comes to my older two, even though my husband is a very involved and very attentive and loving daddy to our 2 year old.

Jamie - posted on 01/21/2010

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This sounds like just what I was looking for...I have 15 and 14 yr old girls and an 11 yr old (lives with his dad in another state) and a 3 yr old (almost 4)

Shannon - posted on 12/08/2009

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Fantastic group! Thank you! I have 3 daughters ages 19, 11, and 7 and a son that is 20 months old. I still gasp when I realize there is 18 years between my first and last child.

Crystal - posted on 11/21/2009

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how can you get the 2 teenage girls to quit fighting and arueing all of the time

Sha - posted on 11/20/2009

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Im so happy!!!! I thought it was just me. My kids are 17, 16 and 5. The two eldest are girls and the baby a boy. I do not pay my girls to keep my son. It's a great form of birth control!!! (lol)

Erin - posted on 11/12/2009

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Wow, a group that understands. My children are 14, 12, 10, 8 and 4 (he'll be 5 this month).

The oldest gets along best with the youngest, but the youngest also annoys him the most. Oh yeah, my 10yo is the only girl.

Paulla - posted on 11/11/2009

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Awesome group! I have so often felt I am the only one w/the teenager (14) and the preschooler (4). Nice to know there are so many others out there w/that kinda "gap" between their kids!

Kristie - posted on 11/11/2009

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Hi my name is Kristie I have 3 girls 17,14,and 2 1/2.This group is great,all my friends either have little kids or teens.I have to say I do use my 14yr old to babysit and pay her depending on length of time.sometimes its a trade to get to do something she wants to do.

Sarah - posted on 11/10/2009

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Rogene, We have 5 daughters (Ages 16, 14, 12, 11 and 3). We do not pay for babysitting either, in this house if anything is going to get done, it MUST be with teamwork!!!! I am so glad that I have found someone else who understands the chaos and drama of a housefull of girls. LOL

Dawn - posted on 10/22/2009

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Wow. I thought I was the only one with a teen and a preschooler. I'm a single mom. My son is 18 and my daughter is 5. They fight so bad. My son had issues with me having another baby. Since it was just me and him for 12 years. His sister was hard to deal with. Even though he loves and is very protective of her, he still teases and picks on her constintly. There fighting drives me nuts. when he is nice to her, she just eats it up. But, there are times when she asks, "why can't I have a nice big brother"?

Erika - posted on 10/12/2009

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I am new to the group. I have a son 14, a daughter 12, and a son 3 and find each day full of challenges. I think having two toddlers at the same time was easier than having just the one. I am looking forward to seeing other peoples challenges and the way they handle them. Thanks I don't feel so alone.

Erin - posted on 10/12/2009

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I appreciate this group. There are definately some different challenges we face, when we have children that are in way different stages! Thanks so much for starting this group! My boys are 15 and 13 and my daughters are 10 and 3 1/2...sometimes I can use all the help I can get and sometimes it feels like a piece of cake...Thanks again

Teresa - posted on 10/06/2009

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hello i have 4 girls and 2 boys.... 1yr, 5 yr,12 yr,15,17,19 I love my life,

Tracy - posted on 10/05/2009

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Hi I have 4 kids from 17,16,5,3 years old. i find it very hard as none of my friends have a family like mine:(

Rita - posted on 06/13/2009

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thanks for making the group i have a 13 year old daughter and a 5 year old daughter

both at there ends lol its like having two 6 year olds and i thought the age differance would be smoother lol they yell scream agrivate eachother my friends dont know what i am taking about cause there kids are not this age differance and said well i should not be having this problem but i am ...

Neosha - posted on 04/18/2009

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Hi, I am new to this group. I think that this type of forum would be useful to me as the parent of a 15, 6, and 3 yr. old. There are sometimes conflicts about the roles and responsibilities that everyone should play in this family. Maybe this group could offer me some advice on how to handle some of these situations.

Marielba - posted on 04/17/2009

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Great to find this board! I rarely meet anyone with teens and smaller children. I have two girls age 13 and 5.

Kim - posted on 04/13/2009

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Quoting Amanda:



Hi I have a 14 yr old daughter and a 2 yr old son !!! hugggggggge age gap and so draining this is a great group great idea xxx does any one else feel like there brain cant cope with switching between teenager and toddler on every level ???!!!!!






Hi Amanda,  I also have a 14 yr old daughter and a 2 year old son!!!  I know how you feel.. I FEEL the same way.. I was kinda excited to see others...one makes me feel so old and the other makes me feels so young... LOL  look foward to chating with you!!  Kim

Laura - posted on 04/12/2009

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Quoting Kimberly:

Hi! This is a great idea for a group! I have a soon to be 13 year old girl and a 3 1/2 year old boy. I have friends with kids my daughter's age who ask me how I do it and that they would never be able to. I am looking forward to talking to evryone on here.



I also have a girl about to turn 13 (May 30) and a boy who just turned 4 (Dec 29)

Jennifer - posted on 04/12/2009

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THANKS FOR STARTING THIS GROUP.I HAVE BOTH .I WAS ALSO A TEENAGER AND HAD A BABY BROTHER THAT MY PARENTS THOUGHT THAT I WAS A BUILT IN BABYSITTER,IT MADE ME MAD THAT THEY DIDN'T CARE THAT I MIGHT WANT TO HANG OUT WITH FRIENDS INSTEAD OF WATCHING MY BROTHER.I GOT MY POINT ACROSS ONE TIME WHEN I SAID,I'M NOT THE ONE WHO HAD HIM! AFTER THAT THEY STARTED ASKING ME INSTEAD OF ASSUMING THAT I WOULD.

Anita - posted on 04/11/2009

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It's good to know there are others with the same quandries!  My daughter turns 18 in a few weeks and my son is 3 and a half.  The kids LOVE each other (thank goodness!).  We still have folks that think my son is my daughter's child since they look so much alike - she used to have a t-shirt that she wore when we were out and about that said 'No, he's my brother' when he was first born.  My biggest worry now is how to help my son when my daughter goes away to college in the fall.



 

Karensa - posted on 03/26/2009

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I am new to facebook and this site. However I am a single mom of a 14 year old boy and a 3 year old boy. It can be challanging at times, but I love the age differance. They are great together. Yes they still fight like all brothers do, but it really helps with me being single,the youngest has a male role model. Anyway just want to say hello to all the moms out there that is in the same situation.

Jullie - posted on 03/24/2009

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Hi, what a lovely idea. How reassuring to know there are other mums around. Mine are 19 and nearly 3. My 19 is os at the moment spending some time with his dad. Of course I hate this but when I split I knew it was something that would come around one day. My 3 does miss his big brother but I try and get nephews and neices to come over and fill in 'big brother' spot. Just started day care two days per week and he is loving it. Is good for him to be playing with children his own age. Take care everyone and thank you

Nicole - posted on 03/24/2009

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I just wanted to say 'hi'. I have 5 children ages- 15, 13, 10, almost 4, and 1. I am a stay at home mom.

Kimberly - posted on 03/23/2009

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Hi! This is a great idea for a group! I have a soon to be 13 year old girl and a 3 1/2 year old boy. I have friends with kids my daughter's age who ask me how I do it and that they would never be able to. I am looking forward to talking to evryone on here.

Mindy - posted on 03/23/2009

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Thanks so much for  starting this group... I thought I was the only one out there between teens and preschoolers.  I am 41 year old and I have twin girls who are 14 and boys that are 6 and 4 and sometimes it gets a little overwhelming trying to make sure you meet everyone where they are at.    But we sure have fun trying. 

Ivy - posted on 03/20/2009

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Honestly, my son is just now mature enough(16) to handle her (6yr sister). I really did I try to make sure she is off to bed before I leave. I have to tell him that when I'm not around he is in charge and there to protect her not the playmate and at 16yr, his fee is always at least $20.00

Ivy - posted on 03/20/2009

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OMG! I have a 6yr old girl and 16 yr old boy......Thank God! I will be a frequent visitor. My daughter thinks she is the Mom and my son thinks he's her dad! Help.

Jodi - posted on 03/20/2009

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I am so happy I came across this group! I have 4 kids.... 13, 11, 8 and 2. It seems there are alot more challenges adding a 2 year old to the mix!

Raelene - posted on 03/10/2009

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I can so relate to all of you :)    it is hard to switch from toddler to teenager mode......so many people have said are you crazy in regards to starting over,  which i found really insulting Tahnai was a blessing and don't regret it for a minute, although i little more sleep would be nice.

Amanda - posted on 03/10/2009

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Night everyone xxx speak to u when i'm back from Ireland nxt wk xxx Take care xxx

Amanda - posted on 03/10/2009

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you definately know what its like then xxx :-D  I dont about u but my son is 3 in July and my d is 15 in June but he is a bit of a bully to her and i feel like he tries to bully everyone :-(  any ideas what i could do plz ??  yet other times its like she is his second mum !!! i am truly baffled !!  I suppose its sibbling rivilary on another scale !!! lol xxx

Lisa - posted on 03/10/2009

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I am so glad to have found this site ...my kids are boy 17, girl 13 and boy 3....Its quite challenging at times but lso very blessed.I can't wait to hear from ya'll...

Amanda - posted on 03/10/2009

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hi Lisa believe me when i tell u there is loads of us hehehe lol xx I thought i was the only one to start the whole baby, nursery, etc after a huge age gap but when i found this site i was relieved others had similar probs xxx how old are ur children ? my d is 14 and my son is 2 xxxx

Amanda - posted on 03/10/2009

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I know what u mean !!! trouble is i'm leaning more towards the intelligence of a toddler and i feel sorry for my daughter i think she is cleverer than me :-D  and i have a habit of calling kyle "Shannon" and vice a versa xxx I am leaving them for the first time for a week to go with my nan to see her dying sister and i know i will miss them but it will be nice to have a peaceful head for a bit. lol xx

Cheryl - posted on 03/10/2009

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Yes, 2 teens (17,13) and two preschoolers (5,3)  Sometimes it makes my head spin going from mom to teenagers to mom of preschoolers all in a matter of seconds!!

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