Out of control 19 year old!!!

Susan - posted on 05/24/2013 ( 4 moms have responded )




Was the perfect kid before she went to college. Blew $6500 in one month, brought her home. She assaulted me a month later and we kicked her out, called the police. Blew the engine out of her car. Living on her own at a drug dealers, bought her another car, blew the engine out of that in 6 days then smashed up my car. Came home to borrow my other car, tried to assault me and Dad stepped in, bloodied his nose, 5 cruisers at my house. They escorted her out. Bought her a third car one week ago blew the computer, hates her job, hates her life. Offered to let her move back home but she doesn't want to live in the country likes the city. 19th birthday in the hospital with alcohol poisoning out drinking the next night. Uncontrollable rage, jumps out of moving vehicles, screams, pulls her hair, breaks doors and gets in my face. Addicted to marijuana. Was the perfect child. Married for 23 years, no divorce, clean country upbringing, middle class.....am I dealing with mental health? Anybody gone through this??


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♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 05/29/2013




If your adult daughter wants to ruin her life, why are you blowing the bank on her?

Quit enabling her habits. You are dealing with a drug addict, and your behaviour only enables her.

Ida - posted on 05/29/2013




yes you are dealing with a spoiled rotten brat who knows you will indulge her despite her behavior. She is a grown adult leave her alone until she acts like one. Stop buying her cars. Perhaps when she has to walk everywhere then she may grow up. I wrote a book, K.I.S.S Begins at Home http://www.upliftinc.org/kiss_begin_at_h... so that parents do not raise children like this one. The unfortunate part is that often the parents are married, middle class families who just gave their children too much without expecting them to be responsible

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Stop buying her things. Just let her ruin her life. It will teach her a lesson. Being a parent doesn't mean you control and support your children when they are an out of control ADULT. It doesn't matter how much it hurts to watch your child mess up, she's and adult now. You have to stand by and watch and show her what tough love is. Love doesn't always mean physically helping her. You're probably making it worse by buying her cars and all of that. But it sounds like mental health. But unfortunately, she is an adult and has to want treatment.

Jodi - posted on 05/24/2013




Where is she getting the money for all these cars? Your post makes it sound like you are buying them for her. Where did she get this $6500 from? Who is supporting her financially? Your post makes it sound like you are. Can I ask WHY you keep enabling her?

It doesn't sound like mental health, it sounds like drugs (which can screw up mental health, but you have to treat the source).

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