Please Help Me!!!!!!

Terry - posted on 08/06/2015 ( 7 moms have responded )

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I am a 52 year old single mother of a 17 year old daughter that is totally out of control and I am so close to having a nervous breakdown please somebody give me some advice. My daughter doesn't attend school, is dating a 27 year old that has given her herpes which I know because he is her first sexual encounter. She does not obey any of my rules and totally disrespects and swears at myself and everybody in my family. She has a paper route that every week she refuses to do so I have papers sitting in my yard and will have to call the paper and tell them. She stays out all night even though her curfew is 11:00 PM says she's looking for work but isn't she is spending all her time with this 27 year old that gave her herpes wanting him to stay the night and move in which I am obviously saying no too. She just left my house to go to his and I took her key and told her don't come home. She has no contact at all with her Dad and hasn't for the past 6 years due to him using Meth and not wanting her in his life anymore. She will not get counselling and lord knows I have tried and I am at my wits end with what to do and how to handle this. Please if anybody has any advice please help.

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♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 08/07/2015

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Well, she's not acting any differently than she has for years, it sounds like, so why, now, do you expect her to change at the drop of a hat?
She asks for money, you give her money. You continue to allow the behaiviour, with no consequences, it seems, so of course she's in hog heaven...
If she's old enought to be considered emancipated, then do so. Tell her that, once that paperwork is filed, you are no longer financially responsible for her, and that you WILL NOT continue to put up with her any longer.

Terry - posted on 08/07/2015

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It's never ending I forgot to mention about a week ago she wanted$50 bucks for a bra and I said no way I am paying $50 bucks for a bra but I gave her $25 to get one. She told me yesterday that she stold the bra and kept my $25 which she bought muffin mix with and all the fixings thsen made 2 dozen muffins for her and her boyfriend. Last night she texts me and asks for $30 bucks so she can buy herself and him dinner because they are starving and he has no food. I told her If he's hungry there is food here she can come and eat so she comes home and threatens to take food out of my house to him. I just threatened to call the police and she left cussing and cursing me and texting me constantly telling me how much of a horrible Mother I am and that she will always choose him over me. So heartbroken and confused where did I go wrong? The only thing I can think of is that I spoiled her too much growing up.

Terry - posted on 08/07/2015

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Thank you everybody for your input I really appreciate it. I am so confused right now and the more suggestions the better. I have had counselling over the years but none of it seems to help. I am seeing my physician next week and I'll talk to him as well maybe he'll have some suggestions for me.

Rose - posted on 08/06/2015

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That's a tough situation. I would call the cops on him just to get him away from your daughter. She is still a minor and he can get in very big trouble. Good luck.

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