Retired Grandma

Gloria - posted on 10/07/2015 ( 3 moms have responded )

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My husband and I are retired and recently our daughter asked us if they could stay for a while, until they purchase a house. I agreed however they did not tell us that her step daughter was also staying with us which it was no problem. The problem was that her step daughter is 15 years of age and does not come out of her room all day long, does drink water does not eat until they come home from work which its about 6 or 6:30 pm.Here comes the issue, I told my daughter that by Mary Jane staying in her room all day was not going to work out with us and we explained her why. Told her that if that was the case it was best she did not stay with us ,that we worried and did not wanted anyone accusing us of abuse or whatever by not letting her out of the room without food and water. My daughter told us if Mary Jane couldn't stay they wouldn't either, that was around 8 pm.They were furies and moved out while we were sleep. When we woke up the following morning everything was gone and left the house and garage door keys.PS: her step daughter also has her real grandparents not too far from here.I thought perhaps they would want to talk about it and talk to Mary Jane but instead they decided to just move out. We feel bad but I don’t thing we did anything wrong however our daughter is very selfish and it’s either her way or forget it.Please any advice would be appreciated. Thank you

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Kathie - posted on 10/19/2015

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I agree with Sarah.You were a caring person and also you do need to look out for yourself.Some one told me once that YOU are responsible for other people's perceptions of you.I was young and worked as a hair stylist and my boss told me this....
'that I would attract the greater amount of the public to do their hair by not dying my hair purple and piercing my nose.That I was responsible for people's perception of me"

In your case it was worried someone might call CPS on you. Bottom line you are fine and you did what you needed to do to hold true to your convictions.

What concerns me is THEY were not worried about her.

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