She's 17 and pregnant, if that's not enough.

Shelly - posted on 04/08/2013 ( 2 moms have responded )

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The boyfriend for a little over a year off and on; saw the first sonogram at 10 weeks and stated it wasn't his. She broke up with him. He's still saying its not his all over FB, school, etc... She graduated HS and started college at 16. She'll be 18 in November and she is finishing up her second semester of college now and baby is scheduled for delivery May 7, 2013. So we've adjusted life. A few months ago she started hanging out a lot more with her best friend (boy), then a few weeks ago, he asked if he could marry our daughter and claim the baby. His mom/dad are totally ok with this and love our daughter. I want them to wait until they are sure they are getting married because they love each other and not like friendship type love that is being confused with real love because of the baby. They are trying to convince me that they are in love and his mother seems to believe it too. I'm saying You need to wait on getting married, you all know the baby is the EX's and despite the way you feel he may want rights after (not that I am taking his side--just what's ethical), and later on if you do get married and the EX doesn't establish his rights then he can adopt the baby. We like her boyfriend and his family; we just think that life has already fast-forwarded enough for right now. What do you all think??? Any advice or way to get through the next month a little easier would be greatly appreciated.

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Shelly - posted on 04/11/2013

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Thanks Stephanie, sometimes I feel like I'm on a merry go round that is spinning out of control while my mind is still trying to stay focused on reality and its current situation.

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I agree with you Shelly and your a good woman for thinking how this decision may affect everyone and not just your daughter. I think your daughter, her best friend/boyfriend, and his family are all kind hearted individuals but they need to stop breathe and take their time with this. Having a baby at 17 is a big deal and its going to be a major life changing experience. I don't think a drastic move such as getting married is going to make everyone live happily ever after. This is a serious issue and I think you should continue to encourage her to slow down and focus on her life, education, and baby for now. You may also want to consider some counseling. Sometimes they can offer valuable resources or connect you with other young moms who have gone through this before.

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