Should 15 year old girls be going to clubs?

Gail - posted on 05/04/2013 ( 5 moms have responded )




Just wondering if I am the only mother that is trying to protect her daughter at this age? Most of her friends parents treat them like adults and say "it's your decision and you must suffer the consequences if something happens" Maybe I need to change?


Enna - posted on 05/06/2013




If it's a club for teens, sure. If it's a club for adults, no.

I know there are some night clubs that have special teen nights. As long as she knows what you expect, and how to react if something happens, then she should be fine. And I would definitely NOT send her alone. Make sure she's with a group of friends so they can keep an eye on each other.

Jodi - posted on 05/04/2013




Uh, what sort of "club"???? A club like the Girl Guides or the sports club, or a club as in a bar and dance club? If it is the latter, HELL NO!!! She is 15 and underage for a starters.

If she is legally underage for her request, you need to stick to your guns and say no. I find it very difficult to believe that most parents allow these things and just tell their kids they suffer the consequences. Do you know these parents personally? And I say this as a high school teacher in a very difficult school. Most parents don't say that. Many parents don't know how to handle it, but most don't just shrug and say whatever, it's your decision.


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Amy Nicole - posted on 05/06/2013




I also have a 15 year old and im very protective of her.I would say sure and then follow her and watch her too make sure she's doing whats he said she would do and if she is then good if not you cna't trust her and don't let her go too another one.(sometimes you have too be nosey too find out the truth)

Kristi - posted on 05/05/2013




My first thought is that you were asking about some sort of night/dance club. So my first response was, um...NO!

However, I am a parent who lets her child "live and learn." Ultimately, we can't force our kids (or anybody) to do or not to do anything. That doesn't mean I hand her a jacket and a twenty and shove her out the door with a note that has my number and says call if you have any questions.

I do my best to educate her. She has rules. She knows the difference between right and wrong. She's human, she has and she will screw up again, just like the rest of us. She'll hopefully, learn from her mistakes, making her a stronger, wiser young lady. She also knows that if she gets picked up for DUI, she's safer behind bars. (only half kidding) Knowledge is power. I feel that if she has the knowledge/power she needs to make an appropriate decision then, yes indeed, she will suffer the consequences if she chooses otherwise.

So what happens if she does get arrested for DUI? More than likely, she'll have to sit her ass in jail unless they ROR her because we have no money. Then, I would encourage her and her attorney to plead to a deal that did not include a DUI conviction, even if that meant blowing into a key-lock system on her car and attending AA every night of the week after spending her day picking up trash along the road in a pretty orange vest that says DOCI on the back, for the next year or two. A DUI conviction could ruin her future. As her mother I don't want to see her future thrown away over one "stupid" mistake....that could have cost her her future or someone else's, so here, have a good taste! Don't ever, ever do it again!

We talk all the time, about everything. Some things I have to push or dig a little bit more on because they might be uncomfortable or confusing and sometimes I have to drop it and try again another time but I never stop communicating. You're dead in the water if you let that happen.

That's my long answer. Short answer...depends on what "clubs," no, you're not the only protective parent, you made your bed theory is not black and white and change is subjective. Good luck!

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