single mum with teenage boys

Janeene - posted on 08/16/2009 ( 3 moms have responded )




Hi everyone. I am 43 year old mum of 3 boys, 13,15 & 17. I am feeling very overwhelmed and alone. My 2 eldest are taller than me and I feel I have little over them. I know I can ban things. t.v. etc, but there is always an exhausting arguement and I'm pushed to explain or justify myself. My main problem is that I don't have family & so are going it alone & find it difficult not having anyone to reinforce what I say. Overall they are good boys, I just get sick of being the one person who they lay everything on and blame for everything. Thankyou all for contributing to this site cause I think it is going to make me feel less alone and maybe I can help and support some of you.

all my very best wishes to other wonderful mums


Lysa - posted on 08/17/2009




Hi Janeene, Never think you ar alone, I have two boys that I have raised by myself also... They are 17 and 18.. Even though my boys are older, I've been where you are.. My sons are both taller than me, and just the other day my youngest put me on the floor playing around.. Since then hes played that " Im bigger than you" brags, cant tell me what to do attitude..Yesterday I toughened up my game, and gained control back, it took all I had to get it back but I did it, Guess what im telling you is dont ever let them get one up on you, they seem to feed off that weakness..stay strong with your boys, and stay in control, remember your the parent.. even good kids will push ever now and then... I cant say why.. just have faith in how you raise them, it'll work out.. and remember you always got friends on here, your not alone...Take care


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Kelli - posted on 08/18/2009




Ur still mom and they r still kids just bcuz their taller don't mean anything.It soundslike u r afraid to disapline ur two older ones. u should never justify urself or ur decsions to ur kids ur mom wat u say goes.Ur boys will think u in the long run for all the things u have done.

Shelly - posted on 08/17/2009





I don't know were you live but you might check into a big brother program or find a strong male role modle of mentor that they can hang out with that can help you with the hard stuff...As much as we love our boys there are just things that we can't understand. Even if you can talk to some of the parents of thier buds and let them know what you are going through I don't know if you are a church goer but if you are go to the church and ask for help, they need a man in there life that they can feel comfortable talking to even if it's just to complain about mom to...Boy's are tough because we have never been one and can't understand what they are feeling so go talk to parents of thier friends or a teacher at school or a coach at school some one that you would be comfortable with your boys spending time with...Good luck and let us know how things are going and know that we are always here for you to vent or scream at or just whine to we know what it feels like to raise a teenager!! LOL...I will keep you and your boys in my prayers

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