Son lives with Father in another State & wants to stay while he is in jail

Gloria - posted on 03/02/2015 ( 2 moms have responded )

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My 16 yr old son chose to move to Colorado with his Father who is originally from California but moved away when my son was 8yrs old he lives with fathers girlfriend and their 2 daughters when he was 13yrs old. I've raised my son since he was 3 yrs. old had majority custody. So now my son is failing high school he is a Junior and has grades of a sophomore. His father is going to be going to jail, not sure for how long he keeps giving me and everyone else different times that he will be incarcerated. His father recently came back to visit our daughter who is 15 and found out he has another daughter who is 10yrs old. It seems to me like his father doesn't want to be with the girlfriend in Colorado anymore. Now that his will be going away I told his Father that my son will have to come back home. Which he agreed. I have rules set at home, keeping your grades up is a priority that's all I ask. Things will be taken away such as phone no going out with friends. My son doesn't agree with my rules. Father is a bit more lenient. I know my son goes out and drinks while over there. I expressed to my son that he will have to come home since his Father will be going away. He needs guidance & stability. His father has taken my son with him to spend the night at his side chicks house, that's none of my business but what is he showing my son! Anyways my son doesn't want to come back home, my son told me he doesn't want to leave his father's girlfriend or his room. I told him he has no choice. He is going to come back home and just turn everything upside down because he doesn't want to be home with me. I just want to do whats right for my son. I want him to graduate high school. Should I stand my ground and bring him back home or let him run a muck???

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Jennifer - posted on 03/05/2015

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You should stand your ground! You are the adult not him. He is still young and if he is a junior he's probably not even 18 or old enough to move by himself. He has no choice. If he still wants to live under a roof and not on the sidewalk of the road then go ahead and let him. It's not his decision. If he was 18 which I'm not sure if he is or not, then he would have a decision to move out and live with the lady or live on his own. Tell him he needs to keep his grades up if he wants to graduate, go to a good college/university, good job, nice house, and a nice healthy family. So if he wants a good life tell him he has no choice but to go and live with you.

Love Jennifer ♥

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Gloria - posted on 04/16/2015

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Thank you Jennifer Robinson I really appreciate the response. I totally agree! My son is will be turning 17 next month. Its just so frustrating is when you have the grandmother on the other side persuading him to move in with her. She is a whole other story! I just had kids with man and family that are not so great! Something I have to deal with.

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