Stepdaughter moved out...dropped out of school

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My stepdaughter moved back in with her mother after not having much to do with her for six years. Her mother lets her do whatever she wants and has no rules. She is dating a 21 year old, and he basically lives with them. I can't handle the fact that her mother let her drop out of high school after failing her junior year. She thinks she can get a GED even though her class hasn't graduated yet, and she thinks the GED is the same as a high school diploma. She tells me I don't know anything, and I am too involved in her life. I am just so upset she is messing up her life. How do you just let them do what they want. She only calls when she wants money.

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♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 05/28/2013

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And, furthermore, how do you know my hubby earned his degree 25 years ago? You don't. I didn't say.

But, thanks for assuming.

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 05/28/2013

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then, Stacey, YOUR HUSBAND needs to speak with his ex. You need to back off.

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 05/28/2013

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Well, first of all, if she's seeking a GED, that's a general equivalency diploma, and I'm slightly offended that you think it's "less" than a diploma.

Especially considering the fact that my husband (of 25 years) holds his GED, as well as an advanced degree, and just had to stop teaching due to a disability. And, furthermore, in my area, a GED can be sought as soon as you turn 16, regardless of whether or not your classmates and peers have completed graduation. So, in that regard, your step daughter is right, you don't know what you're talking about.

And as far as the rest, I know it hurts you, but you are NOT her mother. If her mother and father agree that this is how she's going to be handled, then you, as a step, have no further say.

And if all she calls you for is for money...that's simple: "No, honey, we won't be able to do that. Have you talked to your mom?"

I get it. You want a superbly wonderful relationship with your step child. I did too. But, the reality of the situation is that you are not a biological parent, and unless mom has signed her rights away to you, you really, legally have absolutely no say in what your step child does or does not do. You can express your concerns to your husband, and let him relay them, but that is as far as you can go.

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