suicide

Katie - posted on 06/26/2014 ( 18 moms have responded )

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My 13 year old wants to die. She is in counseling, and appears to be helping, accept for last at 3:30am. Her social life is on the computer and rarely leaves her room.

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Katie - posted on 07/08/2014

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I hope you don't blame yourself, depression is such a dark place. Please forgive yourself, understanding why is a question that can not be answered. GOD bless you

Carrie - posted on 07/07/2014

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>My 14 year old son did commit suicide 3 years ago.

I can't understand why.

Time to reflect on how abusive of a mother you were. Congrats on destroying a life.

Katie - posted on 07/05/2014

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I'm so sorry to hear about your child. I can't even begin to imagine. My daughter Anna, hides her depression with a beautiful smile. I will keep your family in my prayers. #URloved

Anna - posted on 07/05/2014

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My 14 year old son did commit suicide 3 years ago. Please take what she says seriously. Don't take the computer away - I took the internet away from my son the day that he died. I will never forgive myself.

Anna Blakely Rose - posted on 07/03/2014

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Okay, well first, I would reccomend you try and get her off the computer. You don't have to take it away, maybe just turn the wifi off and claim that it isn't working. She'll eventually find something to do.

Maybe try and involve her in some activities. I actually thought about suicide for a few months, but friends helped me through it. So, if you try and involve her in some activities, like camp or hanging out at the public pool, she'll probably make friends.

Also, make sure that she goes to counseling often, she might hate it, but it will help and it did help me. Try and keep tabs on her without being too pushy.

Also, make sure you get all of her account names and passwords on her computer, then you can monitor her without getting on her computer yourself. If she has cousins her age, or you have friends who have daughters her age, encourage them to hang out together.

Finally, be patient. She won't change overnight. Good luck.

~Anna Blakely Rose

Angela - posted on 07/02/2014

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My daughter is 14 shes been hospitalized for 3 months now. They finally let her out! It's all about family time, and getting her active. I bought my daughter a guitar and she lessons..i bought her a puppy..she sees a counselor once a week and i have support if needed. try and work with her to see what she wants to do..i know its tough!

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 06/27/2014

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You, in consultation with her therapist, have her admitted for further evaluation.

Katie - posted on 06/27/2014

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She does cry suicide, the question remains, how do I deal with the anger and depression. Being in that dark mind is hard to get through.

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 06/27/2014

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That's what I'm saying, but you are saying that when you propose the limits, she screams that she's suicidal.

Katie - posted on 06/27/2014

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I will not take away her computer completely. However moving her computer and limit her time. This generation of kids and adults are so involved with social media, and there who lives are the computer. Her social life is on the Internet. This is the reality of today. I have to peek her interest in other activities.

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 06/27/2014

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So you'll find any excuse not to take that computer away, as well, won't you?

What did her therapist say regarding the suicide threat?

Katie - posted on 06/27/2014

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I called her therapist and alerted her to the situation. She is an artist, and her drawings are done digitally. She does not have a cell phone. I am a stay at home mom, so I am around all the time for her. She is a smart young lady, who is really strong (stubborn) .

Susan - posted on 06/27/2014

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If she has a counselor.. call right away.. if she has a psych doctor call them also.... try to find a hobbie she might be interested in.. if she is on meds, they might not be working...keep a close watch on her sleep and eating habits also.. :)

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 06/27/2014

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then what are you going to do? You say that when you attempt to actually parent, she screams suicide, so what DO you do?

I didn't say you actually HAD to hospitalize her, but if she is screaming 'suicide' when you try to be a parent, then even the thought of either choosing between reasonable limitations and being committed to the mental health ward should have an effect on the outcome.

She's addicted to the computer, she is claiming depression and suicidal feelings because of the crap that goes on on the stupid social media sites, and yet she claims she'll be MORE suicidal if you restrict that access...time to step into the tough love ring and put a foot down. Ask her which she'd rather: Lose unlimited computer access and limit herself to a reasonable hour or two a day, or be admitted for evaluation.

Katie - posted on 06/27/2014

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I am not so quick to hospitalize her, It will change her forever, Speaking from experience. I do realize Anna is manipulating us. She is addicted to the computer, and it is our fault.

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 06/27/2014

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Then commit her to the mental health unit at the hospital for evaluation, and get rid of the damned thing. She's playing you by getting you to give in based on the 'suicide' claim. If she's that disturbed, she needs more than counseling, she needs intervention.

Tell her that, if she cannot live with the computer restriction, you'll need to have her evaluated, as the restriction is for HER benefit and health.

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 06/27/2014

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Well, there's a HUGE cause of her issues right there. She should NOT have a computer in her room, it should be in the common area, so you can keep an eye on things. She should not be allowed on the "meetme" site, nor any other of that type. She may be on FB, as 13 is the minimum age, but she needs to unfriend the losers and ignore them.

Get the computer out of her room, and LIMIT her time on it. an hour or so a day, at most. Get her outside and active. Keep up the counseling, and get her involved in activities that stress good interpersonal communication and interaction skills.

Social media is the problem. Allowing the kid to remain stuck to the computer compounds the problem.

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