teen daughter pregnant

Vicky - posted on 12/03/2013 ( 3 moms have responded )

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My 19yr old daughter moved out on her own this past October. She's finished school at age 17. Talking marriage with her 3 1/2 year boy friend.
Has held a security guard job for a year and doing well. She informed her dad and I that she is pregnant. Her dad is very upset. We both wanted her to have a full life (college, career, marriage, kids) I know that every parent wants the same for their child, but my Husband is really taking this hard he feels like he has failed. He wants nothing to do with the wedding or a sit down with the boyfriends family. When we talk about it I end up in tears. I don't know what to do.

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♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 12/04/2013

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Yes, prayer does change things! I'm glad he's coming around, because I really think that your daughter has probably thought this through more than you may realize.

Tell dad to 'buck up'. His baby girl will want him at her wedding. Nothing will hurt her more, actually, than his refusal to participate. I know, he's upset, she's his baby!

But, I really am glad he's taking the steps to be involved! Good luck, and God Bless!

Vicky - posted on 12/04/2013

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Thank you I had a long talk with my husband last nite he was still up set. But I prayed about it, I don't know if you are a religious person, but prayer changes things. My daughter was having some cramping last nite and had to call the doctor, I shared this with him, she is doing well now and sees the doctor in a week or so for her first ultrasound to make sure everything is okay. But this morning we got up I went into the bathroom and I heard him on the phone, her was talking to our daughter asking her how's she feeling. I guess I just needed to be patient. Thanks so much for you reply. Have a wonderful holiday.

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 12/04/2013

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Well, if you don't feel you can support her decisions, don't lie to her. Be honest.

Your adult daughter is making a life for herself. Sounds to me as if she's thought things through, if she's been in a relationship for over 3 years, and was intelligent enough to graduate early.

We, as parents, need to remember that we can dream all we want for our kids, but ultimately, their life is their decision. We cannot dictate to our adult kids what they should do, nor should we try to. We can offer opinions, but we have to be prepared to step back and allow them to be their own person.

Best of luck to you. Congrats on your upcoming grandchild and son in law!

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