teen daughter pregnant

Vicky - posted on 12/03/2013 ( 1 mom has responded )

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My 19yr old daughter moved out on her own this past October. She's finished school at age 17. Talking marriage with her 3 1/2 year boy friend.
Has held a security guard job for a year and doing well. She informed her dad and I that she is pregnant. Her dad is very upset. We both wanted her to have a full life (college, career, marriage, kids) I know that every parent wants the same for their child, but my Husband is really taking this hard he feels like he has failed. He wants nothing to do with the wedding or a sit down with the boyfriends family. When we talk about it I end up in tears. I don't know what to do.

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♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 12/04/2013

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Well, if you don't feel you can support her decisions, don't lie to her. Be honest.

Your adult daughter is making a life for herself. Sounds to me as if she's thought things through, if she's been in a relationship for over 3 years, and was intelligent enough to graduate early.

We, as parents, need to remember that we can dream all we want for our kids, but ultimately, their life is their decision. We cannot dictate to our adult kids what they should do, nor should we try to. We can offer opinions, but we have to be prepared to step back and allow them to be their own person.

Best of luck to you. Congrats on your upcoming grandchild and son in law!

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