teenage relationships

Joyce - posted on 05/06/2013 ( 2 moms have responded )

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My son is 18 and has been dating his girlfriend for about two years. She is 17 and will also graduate from high school this year. He's broken up with her three times, but they keep getting back together. He said he really loves her. Personally, I think he's too young to be serious about anyone. I want him to go to college. He recently bought her an engagement ring, but she probably won't accept it. She said she doesn't want to be in a relationship now, because she wants to focus on her career. My son has been very depressed and I am really concerned about him. I told him there are a lot more fish in the sea, but he's really serious about this girl. They went to the prom together. They talk on the phone, but she acts like she really doesn't care about him anymore even though she said she does. He stays in him room a lot and is usually unhappy. Please, someone tell me what I can do to help my son. I don't want to lose him over some girl. I just want what's best for him and for him to be happy once again. I hate to see him hurting so much.

Joyce

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Connie - posted on 05/07/2013

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I would try a different approach...if he is heart set on this girl then maybe she is they key even if she does not care....let me try to explain...i would talk to him and tell him that i thought that she obviously wants more out of life then what she has now and that maybe he needs to put as much energy as he can into putting himself in a position to offer her more...like continuing with school and making something of himself. No matter how you feel personally, be very careful not to say anything negative about her, doing so will put him in a defensive position and when you are busy defending people it is very hard to see what is really going on or be mad at them yourself.Also don't use the other fish in the sea line...it makes him feel like you are making what he feels less important. I think once they get apart for a bit either she will decide that she really cares for him and straighten out or they will be able to naturally go their separate ways, either way will be gradual and easier on him. Good luck and God bless!

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