Teenager 15 year old

Nicola Mc - posted on 08/31/2013 ( 2 moms have responded )

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My first teenage experience and finding it very difficult. I have an angry, rude and selfish teenage boy. The worst is that he does not even see it. He brings out the anger in me which I know is not good. When do you ignore and when do you tackle head on. Any advice would be most welcome.

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Lynn - posted on 09/10/2013

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Teens will challenge you, but I have found that the best thing to do is remain calm. If I need to respond then it should be with as few words as possible in a calm tone of voice. It is almost as if they win once they have gotten us angry and yelling. As the days go by you will realize that everything does not need to be debated or argued about. You can say "Good Morning" and it will set them off, but that's okay. Let the yelling and ranting go on for them, but you go about your daily duties until you are ready to say "Good Night", then it may begin again, but that's okay too because you are going to bed. I would tell my daughter that I love her and it would anger her so much, but I let her rant alone because I will be saying it again tomorrow. Not going to let fear or anger stop me from loving her or telling her.

Enna - posted on 09/03/2013

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Absolutely ANYTHING disrespectful I would not allow. You may be fighting with him constantly for awhile, but if he sees that the only way he's going to get what he wants is to be respectful, then he'll start doing it all the time.
I've found that taking away privileges rarely works (cell phones, video games, computer, etc.) What I've found that works is giving extra chores, especially ones that they really don't like to do.
I don't know if he's old enough to start thinking about a learner's permit or a car, but that can be a big motivator too.

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