The excuses they come up with....

Jenn - posted on 05/11/2016 ( 5 moms have responded )

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Now that my 18-year-old knows he has to move out for not following the living contract, he comes back at me with the reason his 13 assignments have not been done in the time allotted is because he is learning difficulties and has since he was very little, he claims. This is all news to me, as his mother, who has raised him from birth all by myself.

If he has learning difficulties, he must also have cleaning his room difficulties, waking up in the morning by himself for school difficulties, and making up detention time difficulties.

He doesn't have learning difficulties, he has effort difficulties. That's what it boils down to. I guess any excuse is still better than having to take responsibility for his own actions and lack of responsibilities that's expected of an 18 year old.
Right??

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Harry - posted on 05/16/2016

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Jenn I am so sorry, I know this must be a truly rotten time for you. The good thing is that teens are resilient, he will bounce back up. Stick to your guns Mom! Some of the lessons I myself learned from my own mother were harsh and painful, but I love her all the more for propping me up on my feet and showing me the path to being a better father and man. One day soon, when he is earning his own way and feeling proud of it you two will get a chance to speak of this rationally and calmly. Stay the course my friend, we are all rooting for you, and him!

Jenn - posted on 05/11/2016

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He has a grade that going to job Corp. would be better than being homeless. He did the phone interview this evening, and is now waiting for the orientation before he can start. I guess that's better than being homeless. It's a good start.

Jenn - posted on 05/11/2016

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I had him doing daily chores when he was younger. He half assed them most of the time, and sometimes he waited for me to pull into the driveway before he did them. But most of the time, he did them.

Harry - posted on 05/11/2016

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He needs a good swift boot in the buns. Grab up your bad girl boots and follow through. He will come up with any excuse he can to get you to cave so that he can be lazy. Seems to me that at 18 he needs a good dose of grow up, and mom is holding the spoon. Sometimes the lesson best learned is the one that bloodies us a little. You can do this Jenn, it might not feel pleasant for you, but that young man needs to realize he can't keep on playing mommas boy. He signed this contract with you, yes? He failed to meet the terms? No one else in this world will forgive him a breach of contract, best he learns that now from mom, not someone who might take a pound of flesh compared to your ounce of ego.

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