tongue piercing

Corinne - posted on 09/28/2009 ( 30 moms have responded )

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MY DAUGHTER THINKS THIS OK AT 14 AND GIVING GRIEF BECAUSE I WONT LET HER!! AM I WRONG???

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CalistasMom - posted on 04/08/2014

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The tongue ring is a fairly big deal. My 16 y.o. daughter wanted one and I said absolutely not, no way, forget it. I was fine with a belly button ring, and she got that. But not the tongue. The daughter of a friend of mine has one and she has a apparently had problems with chipped teeth. She has lost weight because it's apparently not as comfortable to eat (-- and this would be terrible for my daughter as she is already razor thin). Your speech can get slurred as well. And lastly, let's not get too stuck in political correctness to be real: you look like a total blowjob-obsessed slut, and that is clearly not the way to win peoples' respect.

Penelope - posted on 10/01/2009

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No tongue piercings! I allowed my teenage daughter to pierce her lip but tongue piercing are viewed as a sexual thing! I had mine done about 8 yrs ago and had many sexual comments from men in the 5 yrs i had the piercing!

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Camille - posted on 06/13/2017

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I feel like things are only sexual when people make it seem sexual. Yes, a kid getting a tongue piercing is a terrible idea, with all of the risks, but its one thing when you label it as something sexual. Just because a girl has a tongue piercing doesn't mean that she sucks or whatever. Its unfair that people have these standards or these stereotypes for these kids. I feel like girls or women should not have to stop what they are doing because of some guy decided that they can't control themselves.

Brittni - posted on 09/04/2013

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You're absolutely CORRECT! I feel that tongue rings are trashy (if I offended anybody with that, I am sorry). But when i was growing up, a tongue ring indicated that you were the girl who gave Oral Sex to other guys. That is NOT a reputation I would want my child to have.

Jenny - posted on 10/10/2009

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I had my tongue pierced and broke two teeth (thank goodness they were in the back) anyway I took out the piercing and saved the rest of my teeth. It is not a good idea.

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I just read an article at the doctors office the other day, that every patient with a tongue piercing, that this particular dentist has, had chipped teeth.

Jenny - posted on 10/08/2009

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when my son came home and told me that he wanted both his ears pierced I said okay and made him an appointment. when I went to take him he totally backed out. Later in the car he said he only told me that to freak me out and get a reaction

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no you are right. my daughter did this at 16 on her own and now she is regretting it. she isn't old enough to make that decision and she isn't thinking about long term she is only thinking about the here and now and being cool to her friends.

Cheryl - posted on 10/06/2009

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My answer is the same as yours.

I wish these kids could see what this would do to their tongue over the years....Imagine a gaping hole at 80 years old in your tongue or any other body part???

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You are right. We told our kids no tats or piercing until 18! Two of our kids are 18 or over now and they haven't done either one. THe logic is when it is up to them, after being raised by your values, they may not want any by the time they are 18.

Amy - posted on 10/02/2009

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I let my daughter pierce her belly button at 14. I told her that she had to be 18 for the tongue. It can get infected really easy and then you got the swelling for a week. No, tell her get a nice belly button ring...you can hide it and it wont affect your eating or talking like the tongue. You can't really hide that. Tell her that you will take baby steps....start with something easier. that way, she sees that you are willing to compromise.

Teresa - posted on 10/01/2009

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Excuse the lang, but HELL NO!!!! She is too young to be walking around with a hole in her mouth. I have a tongue ring, but I waited until I was GROWN to get it. Besides, if she were to get one now, the kids will tease her at school. They will think that she is a slut. Also, it could cause dental problems for her in the long run (worse case scenario: root canals and chipped/cracked teeth).

Glynnis - posted on 09/30/2009

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no your not wrong, mine was 14 and i gave in but lucky enough he couldnt do it because of the way her viens are in her tongue.in a day or two it was forgotton about. she could end up with her tongue being stitched. put your foot down and say no shes not getting it done x

Christa - posted on 09/30/2009

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No you are not wrong. Just tell her that once she is 18 AND has finished high school then you will talk about it. But also point out that alot of future employers will look at that in a bad way. Stay strong and stick to your guns. My 13 year old wants a tattoo and I wont allow it. Even though I have one myself. But I waited until I was 25 for mine. Also let her know that some people have had infections with tongue piercing. My nephew had his done 6 years ago and hated it. It got infected and he had a horrible time with it. He no longer can wear the piercing. Do some research on it for her. Best of luck.

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No, you are not wrong. My 17 year old son has expressed he wants a tattoo, tongue piercing and more ear piercings. I tell him when he leaves my home he can do whatever he wants to his body, but not on my watch. I did compromise when he was around 15 and let him get his ears piercedf, but that is where I draw the line. Rules are rules...life is full of them and they gotta learn how to follow them.

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No you're not. We have a rule in our house for piercings and tattoos. You can get one when you're old enough to get it by yourself. Piercing your tongue entails a lot of care during the healing process and I really don't think that it's something a 14 year old can handle. Besides, does she want to get it done because friends are doing it or does she think it's cool? Either way, she may change her mind as she gets older and meets people who have had it done and heard their stories. I don't think you're wrong not to let her do it. Just grit your teeth and bear with her for now.

Jenna - posted on 09/30/2009

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Tongue piercing originated to heighten sexual pleasure. Don't let her do it. If she does, the teenage boys will try to call her on it. It's neither attractive nor sexy and it is too distracting when you are trying to carry on a conversation.

Lori - posted on 09/29/2009

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absolutely not!!

my 16 year wants her belly button pierced and i told her i want to talk to her doctor first about it and she what complications could happen.. i heard if they hit the nerve in the tongue they could be paralized..

Tonya - posted on 09/29/2009

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do some research and look up the things that could go wrong with tongue piercing and maybe she wont think that it would be so cool to have!!

Corinne - posted on 09/29/2009

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THANKS EVERYONE AM STICKING TO MY GUNS ON THIS ONE!!! SHE PIERCED HER OWN NOSE AND LIP DON'T THINK SHE'LL TRY THE TONGUE (HOPE NOT ANYWAY) HAS DONE BOTH OF THESE THINGS WHEN I'VE REFUSED THE TONGUE AND WHEN I AM AT WORK THREE BOYS AND NEVER THIS MUCH TROUBLE!!!!!

Leann - posted on 09/29/2009

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No I do not think you are wrong. Rule of the house when you turn 18 you can do what you want. YOu should also ask why does she want it done alot of "kids" are getting it done for their Girlfriend/ Boyfriend pleasure. I had one girl tell me it was one way not to get pregnet and keeps jimmy happy ( 2 days later they were still scraping my jaw off the floor..lol) good luck .

Jennifer - posted on 09/28/2009

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no not at all.my dtr was the same way,finally for her 17th bday i took her and she had it done,it lasted about six months.she said she can't stand that food gets around the ring...she gave us alot of grie over piercings.our answer was when your old enough to do something w/o your parent;s having to give permission,do whatever you like.

Krysy - posted on 09/28/2009

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no i dnt think ur wrong kids shuldnt hve peircingz othr than ears tell hr to wait till shez 16..that is wat i wld do

Kerry - posted on 09/28/2009

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Some states you can't get a piercing, even with parental consent, until 16. That being said the tongue is one of the most dangerous piercings because of the bacteria in the mouth. Perhaps you can print out what can happen if you pierce the tongue and compromise with the belly button, if she can get legal piercings at the age of 14 in your state. I know that in california, a reputable place will not pierce until 16 because that is the law and my niece tried to pierce her own belly button and got it fully infected and can't do it now. So perhaps playing the age card will at least help until she is 16.

Kathy - posted on 09/28/2009

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do not allow...i have 2 daughters that had theirs done, they were a little older at the time, but both only kept it for about a week or two...They found it wasn't really cool...and the swelling for the first couple days really sucked.... stick to your guns, if she really wants it done, then she can do it at 18, but by that time chances are she won't want it any more..

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