Unreasonable technology restrictions?

Megan - posted on 04/05/2017 ( 19 moms have responded )

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I guess it is time for this year's post on the same stupid topic...technology restrictions. So, here's some background, I guess: I'm a freshman in high school who goes to a technology-oriented school, so these restrictions are a problem. Nearly all of my assignments are Internet-based, which makes these restrictions a major problem. In addition, my school's band uses an app called GroupMe to deliver last-minute updates and important information. Because of this, I usually need access to my phone in order to avoid...angering the band directors, I guess. Since many aspects of my life depend on phones and computers, I think it's ridiculous that I always get my phone taken at 7 pm and the Internet cut off at 8 pm, especially when on many nights I don't get home and get time to do anything productive until around 9 pm, so I have to annoy (yes, they are annoyed) my parents to get the Internet turned back on. It's not like I ever get time to really use social media or use my phone for frivolous activities, and it's really hindering my work, especially when I need to work in a group iMessage for a group project and use a shared document online. Are these rules unreasonable?

TL;DR: In a technology-oriented community, is it unreasonable to have parents confiscate phones at 7 pm and Internet cut off at 8 pm?

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Adriena - posted on 04/21/2017

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Yes, those times are unreasonable for a high school student. High school students do most of their homework in the evening and some classes give a lot of homework so it can take a few hours. I take my teenagers cell phones away when they go to bed anywhere from 9pm-10:30pm depending. and they get them back while they get ready to go to school the next day. But these rules work in the situation where they both get good grades and they are involved in several sports & activities PLUS I do cell phone spot checks. Without warning, around once every couple of months I go on their phones & check things out, read some texts and look at the apps & photos, etc. They have to unlock their phone for me and sit with me while I do this. If they were not in sports/activities, their grades were bad or they were hiding stuff on their cell phones, these rules would change. If you have nothing to hide - hide nothing. If you're a good kid - it should be easy to prove.

Jtcampe3 - posted on 04/10/2017

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Ev - I totally understand your comment and get it. :) Parents have to be guardians over the internet and make sure it doesn't overtake our children and they learn balance. I do believe that good honest communication is always the best option when issues arise in any family. :) Blessings!

Jtcampe3 - posted on 04/07/2017

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I understand your predicament. It's hard to give you a hard and fast answer not knowing all the details on both sides of the spectrum. With that being said, have you tried sitting down with both your parents and outlining the work you need to accomplish that involves having access to wifi and social media? Perhaps asking for an extension on time for a period of time when your work load is higher than normal? I was raised without all the technology, and it does take some adjusting to on our end because a lot of times we just don't understand the demands of it, especially for school work. I know it seems unfair, but I'm sure your parents really are just trying to do the best by you and have your best interests at heart. I think communication is key in this situation. Blessings!

Megan - posted on 04/06/2017

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Ah…the age card. It peeves me when people play the age card, and I hate the fact that I'm going to have to use it again. 14 or 15 years of age…the legal age to learn to drive and earn a permit (at least in America). Yet one would still not be allowed to be able to find their way onto a forum with a target audience of parents. (I know this won't change you opinion at all but just some…food for thought, I guess.) The original purpose that I made an account for this site was to see the situation from the perspective of moms. In this instance, I seem to have what I came for.

Megan - posted on 04/06/2017

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I suppose I did not originally clarify the fact that I'm not connected to technology 24/7. However, due to household restrictions, I am unable to use technology for aspects where I do need to do this. In my opinion, the tech restrictions are not "teaching" me how to use technology responsibly. It is simply teaching me to obey commands, rather than think on my own. Without the restrictions, I would be able to make mistakes and learn from them on my own.

In response to your second paragraph, I am aware that this is a site directed for moms. However, I am aware from experience with others that I am somewhat isolated, so I would like to see other opinions.

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