What can I do?

Sally - posted on 08/24/2012 ( 1 mom has responded )




Do you have any advice on how to help my almost 14 yo dd through this? Last year she got into 2 friendships with girls that have bad homelives (drugs, multiple partners in a step-parent, divorces), parents letting these girls run wild, inappropriate sexual posts on facebook, one having to have a pg test. I could go on and on. She lost all of her good friendships with nice girls because she was hanging with these girls (their parents didn't knew about these 2 girls reputations) She has broke ties with these 2 right before school let out and had no contact with them all summer. It's been difficult for her to form other friendships now. Have you had a similar problem and any advice?


Kim - posted on 08/24/2012




Sally, I went through the same thing with my daughter. She is 17 going on 18 in October but she started hanging with the wrong group of friends similar to your daughter's friends when she was 15. She lost all her "good" friends. For some reason she gravitated towards these type of girls who's parents don't care and let them do whatever they want. She no longer lives with me. She lives with her dad now because things were just getting out of hand. And she still hangs out with the same type of girls in a different school. But she's mellowing out more and more. We have actually become more closer than we have ever been. I guess she's becoming more mature. If you belong to a church maybe she can join a youth group. I'm not saying that all kids in youth groups are angels but they are surrounded by positive influences. Try spending more time with her. Maybe have a dinner and movie night just you and her once every other week or something. Just to let her know that you care and lover her. I know its hard that you can't pick and choose their friends.

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