What do you do when your daughter goes out?

Michelle - posted on 11/04/2012 ( 6 moms have responded )

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Do you text your teenage daughter when she goes out to see where she is? Do you have her let you know if she goes from one place to another? Do you just sit and wait until she gets home at her designated curfew? I am an anxious mother, that I know. I don't know how much to let go and how much to check on her, or have her check in with me. Some days on the weekends she is out for several hours, into the evening. She is a junior in high school and I know when she goes to college I won't know where she is at all times. Any advice is appreciated.

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Michelle - posted on 11/06/2012

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Thank you. I want to do the same as you but did not know if it was too intrusive or strict. It is nice to know other moms are thinking the same way.

Michelle - posted on 11/06/2012

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Thank you. This is my first time parenting a teenager and things are so different now than they were in the past. Cell phones are both a blessing and a curse. I was thinking the same as you but needed some validation. So thanks.

Michelle - posted on 11/06/2012

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Thank you so much. This was what I was thinking but wanted to run it by other moms to see if I was on the right track. I appreciate your response.

Anna - posted on 11/05/2012

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Give her freedom. tell her what time she has to be home by and that if she goes someplace that wasnt plannned before hand to text you, other then that let her have time w/ her friends. Ifs shes not home at the right time or she dosnt tell you shes going someplace else then talk to her and limit her freedom a little more, it all depends on how responsible she is

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 11/05/2012

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My rule has always been "keep me posted". They know that as they change venues, they need to let me know. They also know that if plans change, they need to let me know.



I don't pester them, unless they haven't checked in. Normally, I have them text or call me about every 2 hours or so.

Starr - posted on 11/05/2012

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My daughter is also a Junior, she just started driving and she texts me every time she gets in and out of her car so that I know she is safe. She texts me when she leaves school and when she arrives at her location and so on. She doesn't necessarily like it but she knows how bad my anxiety gets over the kids in the car. Prior to her driving she just had to let me know where she was going and what they were planning to do, if after several hours I didn't hear from her I would call her and find out whats going on. If she was going to be riding in cars with friends she had to text the entire comings and goings. I always like to know where she is just in case of an emergency and her phone doesn't work or something.

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