what to do when my daughters friend stops texting

Elisa - posted on 12/09/2013 ( 5 moms have responded )

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my daughter is 15 going on 16 she was seeing a 17 year old boy from school nothing serious but at church she met this young man who just turned 18 they started texting and talking he told her that she should break up with her boyfriend. They do split up but are still friends. Then he texts her all the time sometimes they are talking up til 2 am. She is out on homebound from and accident so she doesnt have to go to school a teacher comes to house once a week. but then her ex boyfriend started to text her and have his friends text and post things about her she told this 18 year old and he told her to block him if that didnt work he would talk to the boy for her well her father found out and told her to tell the 18 year to not get involved. After she told him not to get involved he just stopped texting her and not answering her phone calls she is so upset and confused she literally made herself sick over this and I dont know how to help her.any advice?

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♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 12/11/2013

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Its hard when they have medical issues, I've been there.

But, you wouldn't have let her text till 2 am before the accident, right? So, that limit needs to remain. And she needs to respect it. I'm fairly certain that her friends' parents have similar rules, so they'll understand too.

As far as what to tell her about the kid not talking to her...well, maybe its for the best. Maybe he did have the wrong intentions towards her, and got spooked when she told him what her dad said. I certainly wouldn't put it that way to her, smooth it over some.

User - posted on 12/11/2013

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Her father did handle the situation with the other boy.. But she basically lives through her phone now since all of her friends are in school and doing activities that she used to be able to do.. She has had so much taken from her that I usually dont even think about the phone but the computer does stay downstairs. I dont know what to think or even help right now and I do appreciate all advice either I like it or I dont I just need help.

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 12/10/2013

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Even though your daughter has been through some difficulties, she should most definitely not be allowed computer access and texting until 2 am!!!!!!!

Limits are good things, very good things.

As far as what to tell her now? Well, the 18 yo is probably offended that he was told in a second hand fashion to step off. Perhaps dad could have spoken with the young man himself to determine what his intentions were.

Regardless, had limits been imposed, this may not have happened.

Why didn't her dad offer to take care of the kids harassing her, rather than tell her to have the only person who was sticking up for her step off?

There's something off here...

So, impose some damned limits on your daughter's screen time. Start monitoring who she's communicating with, and what's going on. Just because she was in an accident doesn't mean she should have free reign over her computer useage at the age of 15.

Elisa - posted on 12/10/2013

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Well my daughter had a very seriously accident 18 months ago which we are still not over and she is on a list for an eye transplant because of the past 8 surgeries and 5 eye specialist was unable to save her eye. She was a very active young girl playing soccer, volleyball, baton and dance. When she had her injury alot of her friends just stopped coming around and she used her ipad and her phone has her safety net to the outside world because she was and is still unable to do any physical activities bend over lift over 5 lbs not get her eye wet etc. So I just really didn't think about her meeting boys or young men and her ipad was also purchased for school purposes because she is unable to read the books and they are easier to read on it because she can enlarge or listen to them on audio. I just hate that she is going through this now with so much more going on I dont know how to help her and thank you Christina .

Christina - posted on 12/09/2013

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First of all how did this get so out of hand. My 16 yr old son has limits on his phone including turning it over at bed time and family time. 18 is too old for her. No more that two years either way. Set some limits on that girl before her problems become worse. Teens by nature make poor choices and she needs to see that this is a result of her choices so she can learn and become a healthy woman. Explain to her this is normal and will pass. She can grow from the experience and maybe suggest some different ways she could handle herself around young men.

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