What to do with an angry teen who thinks everything is your fault.

Lakeisha - posted on 10/20/2015 ( 1 mom has responded )

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I'm a single mother of two teens. One is an angry, bi-polar sixteen yr old. We live in the country where there's very limited qualified therapists, psychiatrist, etc to help. I may as well say I have no family bc we're not close never have been & we never really talk. My son's father was never in his life but financially helps support him. If he has a bad day in school, he comes in yelling at me saying it's my fault. If he goes to a store and anything bad happens going to or from the store, it's my fault. The only time he feels I'm a good parent is if he receives material things. He acts like it hurts him to compliment me in any way. His 14 yr old sister sees his behavior & his anger towards her as well. I find her always telling me I'm a good mom, which I already know, she tells me she loves me all of the time just like I've always told & showed them, & she's always complementing me on my cooking, looks everything. I don't know if she does this to show how she feels or if it's bc she feels so bad about the way I'm treated as a mom. When my son doesn't get his way he's violent. What does a parent do in my situation?

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Raye - posted on 10/22/2015

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Bi-polar may contribute to his actions, but it's not an excuse. It doesn't give him the right to be disrespectful. You still have to teach him to behave properly. Don't put up with the anger and put-downs. Institute punishments for his behavior. Try to talk to him about what happened that made him angry and why he thinks it's your fault. He doesn't have to compliment you, but he should be treating his family better and not yelling or blaming. If he can't behave, then he's grounded to his room or whatever other punishment you feel fits the "crime". He still needs boundaries and you need to enforce those boundaries and not be a doormat.

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